I read a post over at All Fooked Up in which Lynn, the blogger brings up the issue of competition among bloggers. It was extremely interesting, and made me realize that after a year and a half of blogging, I don’t know all of the “rules,” and don’t particularly care for several of them.
Let’s take guestposting, for instance. The point of this is to get your name out there via other blogs. It’s a great way to build your readership.
Here’s the truth: I hate guestposting. Although I’m honoured when I’m asked to, more often than not, I will refuse.
Partly because I stress out about what I’m going to write about.
But mostly because guestposting, for me, is like going to my neighbour’s house, and pooping in her toilet.
In my house, I know where the switch for the ceiling fan is. I know where the room deodorizer is kept. I’m not afraid to open the window.
But in my neighbour’s house, I sometimes don’t even know where the bathroom is, never mind pooping with the ease of mind that nobody is going to come banging on the door while I’m in there ahem…I need TOTAL silence people! asking me to hand them the People magazine.
See what I mean?
Essentially, when I’m guestposting, my host has her/his way of running her/his blog. Her/his readers are used to reading a certain genre, in a certain manner that they are acclimated to.
Then when I barge in there referring to my kid as a “little fucker” and mentioning my leaky vagina, the reader is jostled a little bit.
Sure, a few of them might find the new rhythm of the guestposter intriguing and worth a quick trip over to said guestposter’s own blog.
But in general, let’s be honest, very few will become regulars.
And here’s another interesting fact: when I go to your blog, and you’re out having coffee, ie. guestposting somewhere else, well, I feel jealous. I’m all, “She’s buddy-buddy with her? But I didn’t even think they knew each other!”
Oh yes! I get jealous! I feel left out. I feel like suddenly, I’m not part of your crowd anymore.
I feel like…wait…
Momentary lapse into adolescence.
Oh! And I only realized recently that if you do guestpost somewhere else, you shouldn’t post on your blog on that same day. Apparently it’s rude.
See, I did not know this.
It is a blogging faux-pas…which really, makes me want to do all the more when I’m told not to…but that’s my issue…
So what is my point?
…what is my point…?
Right! My point is that I don’t know all the rules, and I can’t follow all of them.
And I’m pretty sure posting gratuitous bikini shots isn’t super popular with the masses, but I break that rule a lot too because…well, that’s just fun.
I should clarify however, that writing at In the Powder Room where my last post “The Women and The Wenis” was cause for much discussion about the wagina, is not like guestposting.
My editor there is all about the bathroom breaks.