Disheartened Anonymous Commenter

Last week I received a comment in which the anonymous commenter said that he/she found me funny, yet every time an ‘F’ bomb exploded in my posts, he/she was so startled and disheartened, he/she couldn’t even finish reading my post.

Perhaps I was PMSing; perhaps the commenter caught me in a vulnerable frame of mind, but after rereading the comment several times, I was unable to shake off the squeezing sensation in my chest.

 The feeling of shame. I felt bad. Like I had done a very bad thing by saying ‘fucken fracking fuckity fuck fuck’…

But I do respect constructive criticism, and so I stuck my thinking cap on, and gave this issue some serious thought.

I determined to try and clean up my language. Not only on my blog but also in every day life.

Wasn’t going to be easy. I love me some good cussing, but for disheartened anonymous commenter, I was going to try.

 The day after the anonymous comment, my family and I went on vacation to Daytona Beach.

 Day 1: No problem! I didn’t swear once!



In the ocean, playing with the kids, sun on my face. Wiiiiiii! This is fun!Really, what would I have to swear about?




Day 2: Visited Angell & Phelps Chocolate Factory .


Look at this bad boy!

As the chocolaty goodness melted in my mouth coating my taste buds, I did contemplate releasing a rip roaring, “This is fucking amazing!”

 But I didn’t.

 …I may have made a comment about having an orgasm, but that doesn’t count. It’s not swearing.


Day 3, 4, and 5: Hurricane Irene makes the ocean too dangerous for swimming.


 Spent the days in confined area with four kids piled on my head.

Although I did not bellow the ‘F’ word, I did say, “I am in hell.”  




Day 6: Complete and total breakdown! 

Missed our flight because my husband assured me it would only take one hour to drive to Orlando as opposed to an hour and a half.

 At this point, I did say…loudly…, “It’s all your FUCKEN fault!”…with huge, HUGE emphasis on ‘fucken.’

 Even in my turmoil and frustration at having missed our flight; at the thought of the extra money we would have to spend to switch to another flight; at the extra hours my kids would now have to spend traveling, I thought of disheartened anonymous commenter.

Then I thought, “Sorry disheartened anonymous commenter. It was either swearing or throat punching.”

I think disheartened anonymous commenter would have approved of my choice.






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109 Responses to Disheartened Anonymous Commenter
  1. Hopes@Staying Afloat!
    August 28, 2011 | 1:39 pm

    I think a well place and well deserved F-bomb is perfectly acceptable and yours was ABSOLUTELY deserving!

    I say if it is part of you and your personality! Let it fly!!!!

  2. Barbara
    August 28, 2011 | 1:49 pm

    I think your use of cursing adds to the funniness of your writing. And I think your anonymous commentor’s technique in complaining was passive aggressive manipulation. Instead of just owning up to not liking foul language, he instead presents himself as injured and surprised to make you feel guilty. I hope you’re only kidding that it worked. He should just stop reading your blog.

  3. Ann
    August 28, 2011 | 1:49 pm

    I see both sides of the story….but I do enjoy your stories! F-bombs or not, I laugh, cry and am compelled to finish!

    Sorry you missed your flight.

  4. Vapid Vixen
    August 28, 2011 | 1:52 pm

    You’re in the clear because EVERYONE knows it doesn’t count if you spell fucking as ‘fucken’. Pfft. That’s not even a WORD!

  5. bluzdude
    August 28, 2011 | 1:53 pm

    Once Disheartened Commenter returned to your site, having seen the type of lingo used, the problem is on them. They chose to come back, knowing what language lurks within.

    It’s just like people protesting TV shows. The answer is not to make the show bend to your particular sensibilities, the answer is to stop watching the fucking show.

  6. RoryBore
    August 28, 2011 | 2:04 pm

    I often have the same struggle over cursing. As one person once said to me, intelligent people can think of better words. And for a good Christian girl, its my secret sin. maybe that’s why it just feels to good to say “fuck it!” every now and then. I prefer to see it as my own private anger management. cheap and effective.
    and come on, fuck a duck — how fun is That to say!
    don’t change — we can’t all have “smilings’ my favourite” days.

    • ShannonL
      August 29, 2011 | 1:08 pm

      LOL! I love it! I, too, say “fuck-a-duck” quite often! :-)

  7. Wendy
    August 28, 2011 | 2:11 pm

    Do you think disheartened anonymous commenter would’ve had the same reaction if he/she had left his/her NAME? Call me a big suck, but this is why I never allow anonymous comments. You’re a fucken good sport!

  8. XLMIC
    August 28, 2011 | 2:17 pm

    What the fuck? I can’t fucken believe you blamed Wayne for missing the fucken flight! That is so fucken shitty. And I am sorry Irene messed with your vacation :(

    You know what I think? I think fucken Disheartened Anonymous Commenter should just not read the fucken blog if it’s so offensive to him/her.

    Hey! Maybe you could put a “fucken” disclaimer at the head of every post that has “fuck” in it :)

    Warning: I use FUCK in this post…read at your own risk.

  9. sherilinr
    August 28, 2011 | 2:18 pm

    i used to swear all the damn time. almost every sentence contained one “dirty” word or another, but then i realized that it was less tiresome & more poinant to just use them as passion words. any kind of passion will do. if i’m passionately complaining about money, expect some cussing. if i’m really mad, here comes potty mouth, out to play. i figure it works better for me when i reign in my constant urge to swear.
    but it’s your blog, say whatever the fuck you want.

  10. Venassa
    August 28, 2011 | 2:26 pm

    This post just made my shitty day that much better. I thank anonymous commenter for it.
    I wish I had some of that orgasmic chocolatey goodness.

  11. Padded Cell Princess
    August 28, 2011 | 2:29 pm

    I love your posts and I love other posts from bloggers who swear. If a blog does have ridiculous amounts of cussing just for the sake of filler words, then I will actually stop reading the blog and move on. In some ways I do see both sides but I’m not too bothered with blogs that just throw it in for humor or for telling it like it is. I don’t swear often and I don’t swear on my blog but I don’t expect that of all the blogs I read…it is the internet after all!

  12. karen somethingorother
    August 28, 2011 | 2:44 pm

    my thoughts on the f bomb: Hmm…do I mind when other people use it? No. It is perhaps my favouritist of favourite words, but you have to SAVE IT, and use it for those times when you really really need it, or else it loses its magical candy powers. I said it in front of my kids ONCE, but it was either that, or make them stand on the side of the road and watch while I drove my car into a telephone pole.

    Do I use it in my blog? Nah, but my dad’s a follower for christ’s sake. Plus, I like to think of myself as a modern day Jack Benny. That’s hip, right? Jack Benny? Anyone? Anyone?


  13. Shock
    August 28, 2011 | 2:46 pm

    I am proud of your self control. I’d have refrained today if I knew it would clean up my mindset, but alas I just found your post now.

  14. karen somethingorother
    August 28, 2011 | 2:46 pm

    Hey! How did Sherilinnie manage to attach her photie to her comment? Now I have to email her…

  15. Alex
    August 28, 2011 | 2:46 pm

    everybody knows that unless a word is spelled exactly right, it doesn’t have any true meaning. I say fricking and freaking and I’m quite partial to fracking, so express yourself any way you feel adequate, nobody has to read it if it offends them.

  16. Tamika
    August 28, 2011 | 2:55 pm

    Seriously? Confined with 4 kids and no F bomb? Even *I*, good two shoes, dropped MANY of them when I was confined to a small place (IE Hotel Room) with 5 kids, 2 dogs and a husband…….;)

  17. Belle
    August 28, 2011 | 2:56 pm

    I used to feel a little embarrassed by some of the things I said on my blog. I thought about it and decided I had to be myself. I had to blog the real me. If someone doesn’t like swearing, there are plenty of other blogs to read. Be yourself. We like you.

  18. Suz
    August 28, 2011 | 3:14 pm

    I rather like your F-bombs; they, along with your warped mind, add a certain cachet to your princess persona. It makes you interesting. I mean, if you were merely gorgeous, and not funny, I’d have to hate you. Who would want you to be perfect on the outside and bland on the inside? Ugh!

  19. Queen B
    August 28, 2011 | 3:15 pm

    WOW – you are good with constructive criticism. I usually write Anonymous people off as spammers.

    I like the recap of your curse-free week :)

  20. Nicky
    August 28, 2011 | 3:17 pm

    You know, I’ve read bloggers who swear just for shock value and it is disheartening. Mainly because they’re forcing it and it shows through. I swear like a sailor in real life, but rarely swear on my blog just so that when I do, people get that I REALLY mean it. I’ve never found your cursing to be fake or overdone. When I read your posts, I always feel like it’s just like it would be if we were sitting around, eating chocolate pastries and having a conversation. About how stupid our men can be. And how annoying our children can be. And how commentors who don’t have the balls to leave their name shouldn’t say anything other than “Nice fucken post”.

  21. Robyn Engel
    August 28, 2011 | 3:19 pm

    Why is it that the only judgmental commenters are f*n anonymous? Keep being yourself. It suits you and we love you for it!

  22. The Accidental Somebody
    August 28, 2011 | 3:28 pm

    God dammit, don’t change a fucking thing! I think you pepper your posts perfectly (ha!) with appropriate foul language. I’ve read blogs where every other word is the F-bomb and it just made the author look unintelligent. Yours are well-used.


  23. Marie @ It's a Kind of Normal
    August 28, 2011 | 3:29 pm

    Been reading for awhile, but haven’t commented yet. Just wanted to say that it’s YOUR blog, and that if you want to drop an F-bomb from time to time or in every post for that matter, it’s your blog, why should you have to sensor your own piece of the internet??

  24. Gigi
    August 28, 2011 | 3:36 pm

    Oh for the love of Mike! Seriously? If they are so disheartened and startled, then they need to go elsewhere. Jeez, anonymous people, lighten up already.

  25. Sue Gerth
    August 28, 2011 | 3:39 pm

    It’s your blog, Missy, so you let loose whenever you want to. They don’t have to read it!

  26. Andréa
    August 28, 2011 | 3:41 pm

    fuck’em if they can’t handle it :)

    i use the word all the time, and my feeling is, the majority of the people in our fair country and neighbouring country use it, so it should be put in the dictionary.

    it’s just a fucking word.

  27. Cheryl P.
    August 28, 2011 | 3:49 pm

    I am one of those people that find things funnier when there is some swearing in it. So you can use f words to your hearts content and I won’t be offended. I, in fact, will be laughing. I have a problem with someone that can’t put their name to a comment, if it is critical. If they have a strong opinion about something they need to speak up and take a stand.

  28. ChiTown Girl
    August 28, 2011 | 4:00 pm

    I think your reply to anonymous should have been:

    Fuck you, you fuckin fuck!

    But, that’s just me.

    • Diana a.k.a. Meme
      August 28, 2011 | 10:04 pm

      I was going to say the exact same thing!! What movie is that line from~ do you know?

  29. Aubrey Anne
    August 28, 2011 | 4:04 pm

    Let it be. I wish I had the guts to be myself as much as you are… but my family always makes a huge deal out of it, which throws me back into PG mode… which is lame. Let yourself be who you are.

  30. Ameena
    August 28, 2011 | 4:09 pm

    I am much better about swearing than I used to be but I swear that having kids bring out the worst in you. And me. And our language. It’s inevitable!

  31. Lola
    August 28, 2011 | 4:33 pm

    I don’t think people should fuckin’ leave anonymous fucking comments. Man up anonymous fuckers and use your fucking names, or just MYOB.


  32. Kristina P.
    August 28, 2011 | 4:42 pm

    Wow, congrats! You are practically Mormon now!

  33. Mama Spaghetti
    August 28, 2011 | 4:42 pm

    I love you, swear words and all! And while I applaud your effort to clean up your language, I also think that sometimes there is just no word like a swear word. Nothing quite communicates some points like the F bomb. Nothing.

    Also, you’re hot! Look at you in that bikini!

  34. Alison@Mama Wants This
    August 28, 2011 | 4:58 pm

    Ah, it’s your blog, do what you like. If Anonymous (no name, scaredy cat?) doesn’t like it, he/ she can move on. You be yourself!

  35. Ruth
    August 28, 2011 | 5:01 pm

    I know so many people that are anti-cussing. They are just words. People get their panties in a wad over nothing.

  36. Drizzle
    August 28, 2011 | 5:19 pm

    Screw the anonymous commenter. I like it when you swear. It’s bad-ass.


  37. Mrs. Tuna
    August 28, 2011 | 6:40 pm

    Well I fucking lost some followers lately for using the term vino slut. Whatever, get a god damn fucking shitty sense of humor.

    What? Too much?

  38. Kyla
    August 28, 2011 | 6:45 pm

    lmao at the comment about orgasm, but not swearing! Love it.

  39. Zombie Goddess
    August 28, 2011 | 7:33 pm

    I look at it this way. You read my blog even once, you know I say exactly what is on my mind at that time. I write every emotion. So if I wanna say, “Anonymous commentors can suck my fucking dick”, I mean it, and I don’t feel a bit guilty about it :) . Fuck em, fucking fucker anonmousey loser. I do say it with all the love in my motherfucking heart.

    Let’s see: one, two, three, four, five. Five “fuck” words or variations thereof. I was nice lol!

    Missing flights fucking sucks!


  40. BusyWorkingMama
    August 28, 2011 | 7:42 pm

    Oh no! That sucks about the trip. And now what the hell, you’re on WP?! When did this fucken craziness happen?! Clearly I haven’t been good at visiting regularly….catching up :)

  41. J-Tony
    August 28, 2011 | 7:56 pm

    Hey I’m not much of a cusser, but I say Fuck Disheartened Anonymous Commenter…..That is all

  42. Yvonne J. Salvatierra
    August 28, 2011 | 8:17 pm

    I don’t think you should have even ‘tried’ to change or modify your vocabulatry for Anonymous. First, she/he/it is ANONYMOUS, hiding behind a faceless and cowardly comment. Second, “cussing” is part of your “charm” in this blog. It’s not the main charm or the only charm by any means, but it is a part of who you are. If others are offended then they shouldn’t read it. It’s that simple really. I fucking love you though! :)

  43. Natalie
    August 28, 2011 | 8:49 pm

    I agree…a throat punch probably would have been much worse. Wise choice :)

  44. andie
    August 28, 2011 | 9:19 pm

    I’ve been in the same boat, only it wasn’t a disheartened anonymous commenter that complained about my swearing, it was my own grandmother who claimed that it took away from my writing.

    I’ve since TRIED to tone it down, but in some cases, a good hearty ‘what the fucking fuck?’ can be the only way to properly express my frustration with the world at large. I think sometimes if I include a lot of big hundred-dollar-words around the various fucks and shits, then I sound credible, but badassed and edgy at the same time.

    I’m probably deluding myself.

  45. allison
    August 28, 2011 | 9:45 pm

    I try really hard to be understanding of people who are offended by swearing, but the truth is, I don’t understand. When we went to see The Full Monty on stage my friend Collette was beside an older couple who gasped, jumped and fanned themeselves every time someone said the f-word, and she said she just wanted to turn to them and say “really? You’re still surprised? Even though they’ve said it four dozen times already?” Anyone who says they love your posts but have to gasp and jump and use smelling salts every time you drop the f-bomb is doing the same damned thing, and it’s just silly. I have a Master’s in Comparative Literature – I have a pretty extensive vocabulary. When I say ‘fuck’ it’s because I’ve reviewed all the other possible words and found them wanting. Everyone who’s too proper and virtuous for that can suck it. (reviews quickly for spelling and grammar errors – ah, fuck it).

  46. Jo-Anne
    August 28, 2011 | 9:56 pm

    What to say well if someone doesn’t like that F word then they should just not read it…….ok I know that sounds weird but hey I am weird and who really gives a fuck I do not swear in my day to day life unless you count words like bloody hell, bullshit, shit, bitch or bastard those words I say and write a lot but I do not think of them as swear words…………and I think a lot of young people do not think of fuck as a swear word as to them it is just another word…….does that make any sense…………..The only word I really HATE is the “C” word…….

  47. Angie Uncovered
    August 28, 2011 | 10:04 pm

    In my daily life I catch myself dropping the f-bomb more and more. “I hate my fucking job.” “Who the fuck is paying this bill?” “You’ve got to be seriously fucking kidding me!” “Don’t fuck with me today.”

    On my blog I use more asterisks to disguise my f-bombs, I generally save my full use of the word ‘fuck’ for commenting on other people’s posts! :)

  48. KSK
    August 28, 2011 | 10:07 pm

    My dear grandparents read my blog.. and my in-laws and fuck it all to hell! I would love to let out an f*bomb every now and again! Sometimes it just needs to happen!
    :) Fuck anonymous commentors who don’t have the fucken balls to use their real identity. ;)
    I just like to say fuck. And I’m medicated right now.
    Sorry you missed your flight. That happened to me once. fucking sucked. I was patted down like a criminal. I just got totally smashed with my then fiance in a hotel room and woke up too late to make my flight home. Assholes.
    And sorry you went to Daytona in a hurricane. That was stupid. :) jk!

  49. Rita
    August 28, 2011 | 10:11 pm

    LOL! I don’t use the F-word–(well, I have on the rare occasion, but I could count on my fingers how many times in 60 years and have a finger or two left over)–but it’s not like I haven’t heard it before. If she was so offended she should have just left and not come back vs. commenting to pass judgment. (I hope she never goes to see Chris Rock live!) Everybody is different and has the right to be whoever they want to be. I wouldn’t keep coming back if I didn’t think you were hysterically funny and I didn’t LIKE you. The “F-bombs” are a huge part of your irreverent, freewheeling humor. Now, did that sound prissy enough–geez!! Love you, Lady!! ;)

  50. becca
    August 28, 2011 | 10:28 pm

    hope you heard me yelling HI from my small town across the way. I waved to but you most likely didn’t notice in all your beach fun. As for cleaning things up you are perfect as you are so drop an F-bomb whenever the need arises.

  51. So. Cal. Gal
    August 28, 2011 | 10:28 pm

    Hey, it’s your blog.

    ‘Fuck’ all you want. ; )

  52. Karie McRae
    August 28, 2011 | 10:34 pm

    I hear you about trying to stop swearing. Sometimes I feel really guilty. I swear all of the time out loud and to myself. Nothing the like the work “fuck” relieves stress. Try living in a state like Utah…where everyone is a Mormon. They use words like frick or friggin…yuck! Just say it!

  53. Coffeypot
    August 28, 2011 | 10:55 pm

    All I have to say is, “FUCK anonymous.” Maybe they will fucking go away…the fucktards.

  54. Amanda
    August 29, 2011 | 12:33 am

    I say, if you can’t stand the heat, get out of the fuckin’ fire.

    Your blog, your rules. But good experiment, anyway!

  55. Jessica
    August 29, 2011 | 12:38 am

    I can’t believe you held in the F word that long. I’m impressed.

  56. Jen
    August 29, 2011 | 12:57 am

    I’m not going to claim I never curse. I try to save those words for when I’m really ticked off. Everyone stops what they’re doing to find out what’s wrong. The words lose their power when overused.

    That said…it’s your fucking blog. Do whatever the hell you damned well please with it.

  57. Poppy
    August 29, 2011 | 1:17 am

    First, hilarious as usual. Second, I think we need a vlog because I’m no sure how fucken as opposed to fucking is pronounced.

  58. middlechild
    August 29, 2011 | 1:31 am

    You did well!

  59. hollie
    August 29, 2011 | 1:40 am

    I used to use the f bomb all the time. With friends, with family (even worse) and chatting with friends online. It wasn’t until one day that I saw another girl shopping in the same store as me telling her friend a story and was dropping the f bomb right and left. At first I thought she was trashy. Then I realized that’s what I sounded like! I didn’t want to sound uneducated because I couldn’t find a better word to describe what I was feeling. Don’t get me wrong, I still use the f word from time to time. Sometimes I feel like I need to get it out. I think you’ll find it easier than you think. You did a great job!

  60. Amelia
    August 29, 2011 | 1:56 am

    Personally? I love the word fuck. And numerous other bad ones as well. They roll of the tongue, and the keyboard oh so nicely.

  61. dysfunctional mom
    August 29, 2011 | 2:14 am

    I think if Disheartened doesn’t like your language, he should go read elsewhere. It’s so simple, really.
    And….you were SO close to me and didn’t even come visit!?!

  62. Marie
    August 29, 2011 | 4:21 am

    I fucking love it!

  63. Donna
    August 29, 2011 | 6:33 am

    LOL. I rarely cuss, but I have an 8-year-old, so it’s partly a conscious choice, partly the way my momma raised me. :-) BUT, it’s your blog, and your personality, and as someone who just discovered your blog…. funny. :)

  64. Lola
    August 29, 2011 | 7:23 am

    I think that fucking commenter was totally fucking right. I mean, can’t you find other fucking words to describe your fucking emotions? When you only say fucking this or fucking that, it tends to make you fucking look like you don’t have any other fucking words in your fucking vocabulary. Personally, I am totally on her fucking side and think you might need a fucking Thersaurus. You would never see ME in this fucking situation ;)

    Much fucking Lola love!

  65. Sausage Fingers
    August 29, 2011 | 8:05 am

    Fucking hell you are practically in my fucking back yard. Holy Fuck, hope you and your gang enjoyed the fucking beach….

  66. Lori Dyan
    August 29, 2011 | 8:13 am

    Sometimes in conversation, as in life, only a good Fuck will do…

  67. amy b.s.
    August 29, 2011 | 9:57 am

    i can relate as i swear like a sailor most of the time. it’s difficult to censor it sometimes.

  68. Shauna-Just Two Chicks @ Blogger
    August 29, 2011 | 10:36 am


    First of all, I’m really sorry for your vacation troubles. Second, thank you for making me laugh! The feckin, fucken, etc, etc… was great!!

  69. My Inner Chick
    August 29, 2011 | 10:46 am

    I wouldn’t worry much about somebody Anonymous who couldn’t even leave her/his real name.
    I’d tell her this: “If you are offended, Fuck You!” x

  70. Cari
    August 29, 2011 | 10:51 am

    Well I applaud you for trying. Most other bloggers would just said eff it. I think that’s awesome. I love you blog not matter if you swear or not. Do what you do, cause you do it well!

  71. bo bo
    August 29, 2011 | 11:09 am

    Sometimes a good throat punch to someone is nice too :p

  72. Paula @ thewilyweez
    August 29, 2011 | 11:19 am

    There’s nothing like dropping a big F bomb to make the frustration seem a little more manageable!

  73. Kristin
    August 29, 2011 | 11:55 am

    Yeah…I think an F bomb is preferable to a throat punch. HA!

  74. C.B.
    August 29, 2011 | 12:00 pm

    Constructive criticism? Fine. That He/she can’t finish reading your post because you said 1 word he/she doesn’t like? Who cares. You really don’t swear that much and it’s never in real anger so why not? You’re an adult, you have four “big” kids….you have earned the F word! And if He/She can’t take it then he/she does not need to read your blog…’s his/her loss.

  75. Impulsive Addict
    August 29, 2011 | 12:08 pm

    Well, EFF her. That’s all I have to say about it. I don’t say the forbidden “F” word in my everyday vocab but Anon needs to remember that THIS is American and the internet is also a FREE SPEECH outlet so she needs to quit reading or quit complaining.

    So sorry about your craptastic vacay. =(

  76. Lorraine
    August 29, 2011 | 12:09 pm

    Whenever Florida is mentioned in a post I just squee all over myself. Yay Florida!!

    I tend to really try to avoid cursing in my “Late to the Party” blog. I’m not sure why. But. On my “Childhood Trauma” blog? Fuck here, fuck there, fuck everywhere.

  77. Lin
    August 29, 2011 | 12:20 pm

    Peronally I love it when your curse. I lets me know you’re not a droid :)

  78. Vera
    August 29, 2011 | 12:22 pm

    Anonymous people can go fuck themselves. In unrelated news, I apparently just ordered a Scooter from The Scooter Store. Someone is getting their ass kicked today.

  79. ShannonL
    August 29, 2011 | 1:12 pm

    I don’t remember ever getting through a whole day without swearing, so good work! You don’t need to sensor yourself – it’s your fucking blog! Keep on being you! :-)

  80. Sheila
    August 29, 2011 | 1:13 pm

    Sometimes no other word will do! I use it a lot when I’m speaking and try not so much when I’m writing. Didn’t want to offend anyone but what the fuck! I will write as I speak from now on.

  81. Missy | The Literal Mom
    August 29, 2011 | 1:15 pm

    I think life is greatly, and I mean GREATLY, improved by a little “fuck” thrown into every day language. It really gets the point across. :)

  82. Kimberly
    August 29, 2011 | 2:26 pm

    I totally think you should have ended with this line “Swearing or fucking throat punching” with the emphasis on fucking…with flashing lights and sparkles

  83. julianna
    August 29, 2011 | 3:01 pm

    Bummer about the hurricane. It’s really common this time of year. About your comment on my page…

    Nope. I live in the Boston area, but I lived in Florida for 7 years. I’ve been trying to get flights down for a while now, so I can visit people I haven’t seen in far too long.

    Daytona is beautiful. So glad you got to go. :)

  84. Ninja Mom
    August 29, 2011 | 3:15 pm

    I’m very impressed. I usually can’t go five minutes without at least spelling a curse: f-u-c-k no.

  85. Megan (Best of Fates)
    August 29, 2011 | 3:31 pm

    Is it sad that I’m somewhat envious of the anonymous commenter?

    Seriously, I’ve never had a single one.

    Which makes me fear – why does nobody hate me?


    (Seriously, I think it’s generally a worrisome sign. Clearly I need to start posting about breastfeeding.)

  86. Arts Chili Pepper
    August 29, 2011 | 4:32 pm

    Well, I for one want to say, I am proud of you for being open minded to criticism and then really examining it and then going one step further and realizing that you needed to make a change and attempting to do so.

    My father had no problem swearing up a storm when we were growing up. We were forbidden to use such language, however. When we were teenagers, it became common place. As an adult and a christian and mother of 8 children here at home, I still have really constrain myself when I am upset because that behavior was so ingrained in me. I have worked at it for 20 years! We do everything we can to give our kids the best advantages, why give them an additional struggle.

    Also, I was reading in your profile about how you thought it was wrong that you define yourself as a mother to four children. I know this is so not PC and modern or anything, but take it from this happy mother of 20 years… it was when I realized it was okay to be just a mother to my children (it is truly just for a short season that passes so quickly) that I found true happiness and contentment in my life. Not to say you have to fill every waking moment with your children but realizing that while you are there, enjoy it and know that it is okay if that is all you do for a while.



  87. madge
    August 29, 2011 | 5:21 pm

    I say let the flurry of profanity fly!!!! FUCK YEAH!!!

  88. fizzgig
    August 29, 2011 | 8:41 pm

    I dont believe in “god” per se. but most people do, so who invented bad words? was it god? jesus? are they in the bible, cus i wouldnt know but I don’t think in the back there is a glossary of forbidden words, is there?

    They are only bad to people who think they are, therefore the problem isnt the word its the person who takes offense to them. Some people think saying “panties” is horrific. Maybe Victoria’s Secret should be shut down for advertising such filth?

    Or what about feminine itching? where does it end?

  89. Brandy
    August 29, 2011 | 9:20 pm

    I’m betting on a troll. They reel you in just to fuck with you…FUCK!

  90. Tamara
    August 29, 2011 | 10:05 pm

    Cracking up! SO funny! I don’t think I would get out of bed if someone took away my eff word. Sometimes the more profanities I can fit into a sentence, the better I feel. Again-love this post. I was dying on your missed flight! Still laughing!

  91. Kimberly
    August 29, 2011 | 11:30 pm

    I love you just the way you are! Profanities and all. But then, I’m a firm believer that cussing can be a really good thing. Just not when your 2.5-year-old yells, “Shut the fuck up, birds!” at your parrots. Then it’s bad. And it’s REALLY bad if you giggle. Learned that the hard way…

    Anywho, I’m glad you had a couple of good days of vacationing. Damn hurricanes ruining all your fun. And I cannot believe your hubs screwed that up! At least you made it home safe and sound.

  92. Laura@Catharsis
    August 29, 2011 | 11:32 pm

    Oh, let it rip! If you want to swear, you swear! What adult can’t handle a little cussing here and there? Must be a peachy keen life he/she is living. Plus, it’s your house. You can say what you want on your own blog. That’s what a blog’s for, anyway, isn’t it? To be able to say what you want and not have to feel bad about it?

  93. Bridget
    August 30, 2011 | 2:04 am

    If people don’t like your language they shouldn’t read your blog. Also, leaving an anonymous comment is a bitch move.

  94. Sam-O
    August 30, 2011 | 8:25 am

    It’s your blog.
    They didn’t even sign their own name, what right do they have to criticise?

    Fuck ‘em!!

    Love your work, keep it up!

  95. Motpg
    August 30, 2011 | 8:38 am

    I can’t think of a more legitimate reason. Not to mention, traffic in Orlando might make Mother Teresa want to throat punch someone.

  96. Queen B
    August 30, 2011 | 10:23 am

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  97. John
    August 30, 2011 | 11:29 am

    You visited my blog when, in my previous post, I used the word “fuck” more often than not, I believe.

    The funny thing is that I very rarely swear when speaking. And I’m always aware of when I’m swearing (be it in print or out loud). I think that’s the trick to keeping the kids from ever swearing . . . don’t pretend the words don’t exist, but make sure they know that they’re only to be used when the moment is just right.

    All that said, I really get a kick out of tweeople who warn that they sometimes swear in the timeline . . . just flabbergasts.

  98. Sara {Then Came Life}
    August 30, 2011 | 12:57 pm

    Hahaha! I just found your blog and I am glad I did! Sounds like a great read (note- I don’t feel disheartened at all) Anonymous commenters don’t really want to be taken seriously- even they can’t stand behind their comment..(next time leave a name)..but the best thing about the internet is- if someone isn’t thrilled they don’t have to read it again.

    Sorry your vaca went south :-(

  99. LuLu
    August 30, 2011 | 1:36 pm

    Peeps that leave anon comments seem to want to “hide” behind their opinions. I say if you don’t like what someone offers on their Blog, don’t read it. I had someone recently (yes an anon person) saying they couldn’t read my Blog anymore because the concluded I was a devil worshiper due to me being nuts about anything Halloween. *shrug* This was the same anon person that said I should be ashamed of myself for altering a plastic baby head (which I did very cutesy)…one person’s art is another persons junk.
    All I can say is don’t change who you are. I like you just the way you are.

  100. Linda Medrano
    August 30, 2011 | 5:28 pm

    Oh Sandra, who fucking cares what one person says. You say whatever the fuck you want to say. The end.

  101. Julie @ mamamash
    August 30, 2011 | 5:51 pm

    I get so annoyed by people who complain about “profane
    language. It’s only profane because someone, somewhere with a giant stick up their ass decided it was.

    So let’s say I decide that MOIST should never be uttered again. What NOW, Duncan Hines? I am OFFENDED.

  102. meleah rebeccah
    August 30, 2011 | 6:31 pm

    Hellz YES that called for the F-Bomb.

    And as for your cussing, for some reason when I read other blogs peppered with the word FUCK I get turned off. But the way YOU say it just makes me laugh. A lot.

  103. Margaret (Nanny Goats)
    August 30, 2011 | 7:16 pm

    I’m sorry, but even though I don’t drop F bombs on my site, I LOVE the fact that you do!

  104. Shell
    August 31, 2011 | 9:28 am

    It never ceases to amaze me how people think that they can make a comment and that it would actually change something about how someone else blogs.

  105. Sarcasm Goddess
    August 31, 2011 | 11:19 am

    I’m sorry, but I have to disagree with anonymous commenter. First, I take issue with them being anonymous. If they have someone to say, especially if it is to criticize, they should say who they are. Secondly, FUCK THAT! If they have a problem with the F word, guess what? They don’t have to read your blog. Which is totally their loss, not yours. Seriously, I am fuming right now. It’s not like to say Fuck in a deragotory way. You use it as humor, and even if you didn’t however you want to use it is your right. It’s your blog and last time I checked, we have freedom of speech in the country. You continue to be who you are and say what you want. It’s your blog and your life. If you want to change what you say do it cuz YOU want to, not cuz someone made you feel bad or shameful.

    That’s my (humble) opinion. I’ll get off my soapbox now.

  106. SuzieQue
    September 1, 2011 | 4:53 pm

    Give me a fucken break…

  107. MinDog &Metch
    September 2, 2011 | 4:25 am

    I wonder about this every time I have to write the title of our blog anywhere. People are easily offended, too easily offended… The reader was that turned of?

    F-bombs away. Say what you like, write what you like and enjoy it.

    I shouldn’t speak for God but- God knows the consequences of a little “f” word here and there or everywhere are way better than the potential consequences of throat punching.

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