I am sad. Should I blog?

So it’s Sunday.

I last blogged Wednesday night.

Usually I blog at least every second day.
And usually my posts are upbeat and fun, and funny.

Ok…

Maybe they aren’t always funny for everyone, but I try to introduce the words ‘vagina’ and/or ‘stinky butthole’, which, let’s face it, are giggle-worthy.

But today, not so much fun.
This was my option: either blog the truth about why I haven’t been blogging.
Or don’t blog.
Clearly, I’m going to spill my guts.

So get your Kleenex handy because it’s going to be a tear jerker.

Did you get your Kleenex?…
Go ahead…I’ll wait…

So as several of you know, I am a nursing student.
I am currently doing my rotation in the hospital.
I was enjoying the first couple of weeks.
I was learning new skills.
I was interacting with patients, their families, the staff.
For the first time since I started my schooling, I felt like maybe I hadn’t made a mistake in going into this profession.

Then a couple of weeks ago, I got put on a shift with a couple of nurses who can be called many things, but kind and compassionate are not two of them.

Unfortunately, I am no longer that little girl who runs away from the bully.

On the first day, I stood up for myself, and made it clear to them that I would not be treated that way.
I said, “You do not get to treat me that way.”
Pretty clear, right.
I may or may not have been doing the “Speak to the hand” gesture…

image from here

Of course, now, as punishment, I am being paired with these nurses during every one of my shifts.
So essentially, I spend 16 hours a week, dodging insults, put-downs, snickers, eye rolls, and deep sighs, which, if they could be translated into human speak, would mean “We hate you! Nobody stands up to us! Nobody! Die bitch! Die!”

…ok, maybe a tad over dramatic, but give me a break, I’ve been under a tremendous amount of stress.
Being bullied is exhausting.

No, there is nobody I can go to to speak about this because the staff is very tightly bound.
No, my teacher won’t understand.
Yes, I have to grit my teeth and get through this.
Yes, when it is over I will be stronger for this.

However, in the meantime, I’ve sort of taken to curling up into a little ball and feeling sorry for myself.
Which means, I don’t really see the funny in my life.
Which is too bad.
My one son made up a “bucket list” for a school project on which one of the items listed stated, “Get a job one day,” which, come on, how much fun could I have had with that.
(Other items also included “put a pizza in the oven,” “bang a gong,” and “play the flute”…but I’m too sad to find the will to pursue the comedic twist on these, so you’ll have to just imagine what I would have come up with.”

So all of this to say, I am sad.
I am 42 years old and struggling with the emotions associated with being bullied.
I can’t even imagine how a child, who doesn’t have the coping skills of an adult, feels.
And that makes me even sadder.

Sorry for the lack of funny today.
Perhaps I’ll shake this off soon, and be back next week with our regularly scheduled dose of inappropriate topics.

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135 Responses to I am sad. Should I blog?
  1. CkretsGalore
    March 6, 2011 | 6:52 pm

    I'm sorry to hear that Sandra as I can totally appreciate your situation. I had a manager who said nice things like ,” You're fucking useless. Piece of shit. Loser…blah blah.” Then he would turn around and hit on me. He was french…waddya expect. ;) (TEASING! haha)
    What got me through it is that there was light at the end of the tunnel (new job) and karma just had to bite that bitch in the ass.
    He lost his business and I was the one to dispatch the locksmith to change the locks in the restaurant. Fuck Yeah.

    Remember that you're allowed to be sad but don't wallow too long because it only makes it harder to get back up and punch those bitches in the face!

  2. Kimberly
    March 6, 2011 | 7:00 pm

    I am the first comment? I'm usually like 109. Which is how I feel in life sometimes. Never number one. Let me just sit here for a moment while I take in this epic event.
    Boom.
    Now that's out of my system..
    Nursing school brings out the cunt in seasoned nurses. I don't for the life of me know why since nursing students are pretty much free slave labour….you do all the shit work…literrally and figuratively…and I don't see why nurses get their scrubs in a knot.
    You don't have to stand for that bullying and I will tell you a secret…
    Go to their manager.
    I work with a the managers in my hospital and they do not take bullying lightly. Especially with nursing students. I kid you not.
    Better yet, one phone call to the CNO would nip that in the bud…
    I think that they're just jealous of your hotness paired with nice tits…I mean brains ;)

  3. Teresa Evangeline
    March 6, 2011 | 7:00 pm

    Bullying, I am finding out, is not just for the schoolyard any more (well, this is sort of the schoolyard), and some girls never get beyond it. These adolescents, late-blooming, ah, adults, haven't left the schoolyard yet. I would say “kill them with kindness,” but I fear there would be a price to pay.

    Living well, and in this case, working well, is the best revenge.

    We think you're really cool.

  4. LL Cool Joe
    March 6, 2011 | 7:00 pm

    No one can, or should be funny all the time anyway. Showing a more vulnerable side only makes you more human.

    I really hope things improve for you. :)

  5. Kimberly
    March 6, 2011 | 7:01 pm

    Fuck!!!!!!!! Two people beat me in the número UNO spot. Bass turds!!!

  6. Baby Sister
    March 6, 2011 | 7:02 pm

    I'm sorry. :( Eat some ice cream, it helps. I hope it turns out better soon…

  7. Kimberly
    March 6, 2011 | 7:03 pm

    I'm so glad you shared this. I hate mean people. I really do. And you're so right, if you (or I) as an adult have a hard time with bullies, I can't imagine what it's like for a child.

    Hang in there…and remember, KARMA will get those bitches.

  8. Valerie
    March 6, 2011 | 7:04 pm

    Karma, baby. We've all been there – focusing on the stuff in our life that does not suck is hard when you spend most of your day at work with people who suck. So here's what the doc told me when I went begging for valium to kill the pain of my work days which were disintigrating into thoughts of “how to make certain asshats in my office disappear without going to jail” strategies: “Medication isn't a constructive way to deal with their bad behavior. Remembering why you are here, your contributions, and what you would tell your replacement when you do finally leave – the good things.” Real life isn't rainbows and sunshine, and nothing wrong with getting a little venting – or even ranting – out there. Cathartic. Now I shall go find spells to put on those bitches for you.

  9. Marissa
    March 6, 2011 | 7:04 pm

    What? Bullies make great blog-fodder! You've got all of us on Team Sandra. Tell 'em to BRING IT. We'll kick ass with our Tiger Blood.

  10. Coffeypot
    March 6, 2011 | 7:08 pm

    Suck it up, babe. You are just going through a phase of your training – just like any military type had to endure in boot camp. We have all had to train or work under less superior people, and no matter what they say or do, they are making you a stronger, better person and nurse. Even if they are serious, that just means they know nothing about people or training. Just two small people who make themselves feel big by belittling others because they can.

    As for feeling sad, I do know that fatigue and stress can get you down, but NO ONE has control over your emotions. That is done in the gray goop between your ears. You should thank them for making you a stronger, better person, work extra hard, become a supervisor and fire their skanky asses.

    Just keep on keeping on. You rock, girl…uh…nurse.

  11. Symdaddy
    March 6, 2011 | 7:16 pm

    No easy answer to bullying!

    Hope things work out right for you.

    If all else fails, beat 'em up one at a time.

  12. " Hit It......."
    March 6, 2011 | 7:17 pm

    I am really sorry. Unfortunately, you need to just get through it. Pay it forward and when you are in a position of authority, be kind to the students. That is how you will get back at these bitches. Know that you are better than you. Remember, what doesn't kill will make you stronger. Also, don't give them the satisfaction of knowing that they have gotten to you. Be super sweet…it will piss them off!

    Good luck.

  13. " Hit It......."
    March 6, 2011 | 7:18 pm

    I mean, you are better than them, not you. Sorry, I should have reread it again.

  14. Chanel
    March 6, 2011 | 7:19 pm

    I hope you're giving as good as you're getting. If they are mean to you and insult you, turn it back on them. You're way prettier than all of them anyway, and just as smart. Which means you're better off than them. You're also not mean. Which is much better.

  15. suz
    March 6, 2011 | 7:24 pm

    Been there! Done that!

    Straight up, Ckrets!

    Sandra,you've worked with fuckheads before and you'll do it again, unless you die. You're tough and you're smart, so you'll be alright. You already understand what they're doing, and that it's their problem not yours. And yes, it's exhausting to be around poison people. It sucks, because that's what the vampires do – suck the spirit right out of you.

    Advice: Go on the offensive, but with subtlety. Never argue or defend yourself. Instead, learn to fake a tiny, sly, smug smirk. Practice it on your family. Next time there's a lull in conversation at work, start to say something to one of them. Stop dead right in the middle of “You kn-,” then flash the smirk while you look away, without so much as a “Never mind.” Straighten your face INSTANTLY and pretend it never happened. It will drive them up the fucking wall!!! And they'll try to punish you, possibly making fools of themselves in the process. Some days I just let my boss rave on until she hears what's actually coming out of her mouth. Shuts her right up, for weeks at a time. Keep reminding yourself – you're moving on to better things, they're not. And no matter how good a mood you find yourself in, NEVER NEVER make yourself vulnerable by sharing anything personal. This sort of person will ALWAYS use it to make you feel small – just like them. Good luck to you, I hope it ends soon.

  16. powdergirl
    March 6, 2011 | 7:25 pm

    Its too bad that kicking the bullies in the snatch isn't allowed, because I think that would be the appropriate response.

    Sorry those bitches suck so bad, what a drag.

  17. Red Shoes
    March 6, 2011 | 7:32 pm

    You can endure anything in the short run… at least that's what I teach in economics. Look at these two as what you do NOT want to be in your career as a nurse.

    We need caring, sympathetic people in nursing (I think) and not cruel, hard, calloused people like these two.

    Do NOT allow them to beat you down.

    You ARE a winner, and you will prove it by out-lasting these two!

    There are more like them in the wings… it is your decision to not be like them.

    I bet you can do it!

    ~shoes~

  18. Lost.in.Idaho
    March 6, 2011 | 7:35 pm

    The only bright side I can offer is that you're getting the worst of it out of the way. It will get better, it will get easier, and you will make some damn good friends soon.

    And clinical sites, if they're anything like my ex's schooling, are only for a few weeks at a time. They'll take you to a few different sites, to let you experience different places and things.

    Just DON'T do what she did! While exxie was going through school, she would learn about diseases and symptoms, and SWEAR she had most of them! She turned into super-hypochondriac woman, and also thought she new as much as the doctor. She's diagnose everyone she met, and turned into God. Keep your ego in check, and don't let bullies get you down.

    Good luck! <3

  19. XLMIC
    March 6, 2011 | 7:37 pm

    Ugh. Mean girl adults. I am so sorry you are dealing with such crap. ((((Hugs)))) it is hard to find those comedic twists and blog about them convincingly when feeling so low :)
    How about killing them with chipper, upbeat-ness. Bring donuts and shit like that. Go over the top with sweet fun. It'd also give you the satisfaction of not stooping to their asinine level. Fortitude, tenacity, perseverance! You will make it through!

  20. Paige
    March 6, 2011 | 7:39 pm

    I went through the same thing for TWELVE YEARS, all because I would not stand quiet for bullying either. So I totally get you. It is a rough spot to be in. Hang in there

  21. Semi-Slacker Mom
    March 6, 2011 | 7:44 pm

    That sucks. I hate you have to go through this, but sharing it does give us another side of you.

  22. laughingmom
    March 6, 2011 | 7:44 pm

    Sandra – Be strong – think about what a great lesson this will be for your children when they are going through tough times with bullies. Mean girls (people) are everywhere and it's up to the rest of us to not give them a target! Hang in there!!!

  23. Deborah
    March 6, 2011 | 7:47 pm

    Crapski. Sometimes I don't like peeps you know? Why would these women be so hateful? Because they just ARE hateful.

    Rise above young lady. Know that they are feeling 'something' and it isn't good.

    Bitches.

  24. The Minute Man's Wife
    March 6, 2011 | 7:49 pm

    OMG! I faced the exact same dilemma this week. I was feeling really sad and I didn't have the heart to muster up my usual funny, witty and extremely intelligent writing.

    I too came to the same conclusion you reached. It's my blog and I'll cry if I want to! Also, I found that my blogs still had humor in them just as this one did. So chin up partner in Sadness!!

    BTW, I find that a good response to people like that is to laugh at them and say, “Aw, that's cute. You thought I cared enough about your opinion to value it!!”

  25. The Vegetable Assassin
    March 6, 2011 | 7:57 pm

    Dude, next time one of those douchecanoes starts being a bitch, just picture her bent over the end of a hospital bed, getting it in the backyard from a disheveled homeless guy. Or Charlie Sheen. And keep that image in your head while she's being an asshole.

    Sorry you're putting up with morons. Some people never grow up.

  26. CkretsGalore
    March 6, 2011 | 7:58 pm

    BTW…FUCK YEAH! I was first to comment!

  27. amanda
    March 6, 2011 | 7:59 pm

    Booooo. I'm sorry. That sucks. This reaffirms my belief that the real world is JUST like high school. Hang in there!

  28. Thisisme.
    March 6, 2011 | 8:00 pm

    You don't have to be funny all the time. We follow your blog because we like you very much, and nothing will change that, even if you don't blog for a little while. The situation you find yourself in is just not funny, and I really do feel for you, having to spend your working hours with those two dorks. We can give you all the encouraging words we can, but it's still YOU that have to be there and to put up with it. Don't let them kill your spirit and always know that you are worth so much more than them. Something is obviously failing badly in their lives for them to behave like that.

  29. Hannah
    March 6, 2011 | 8:02 pm

    I can completely relate to your situation because unfortunately, there are mean people everywhere no matter your age or walk of life. I don't have any words of wisdom for you except I can tell you that we all think you're wonderful and those stupid women are just too full of themselves to realize how great you are. Hang in there and know we are all sending our love to you.

  30. Monkey Man
    March 6, 2011 | 8:10 pm

    You are right. They can't treat you that way. Remember if it gets bad, that is what HR is for.

  31. Anita @ GoingALittleCoastal
    March 6, 2011 | 8:15 pm

    Bullying, it's sort of like zits, you think by your 40's you'd be over it. Sadly they continue.

    Bang a gong! Gosh, my mind is wandering with that one. You'll definitely have to revisit it when your humor comes back.

  32. Kristina P.
    March 6, 2011 | 8:33 pm

    Don't they know who you are?!?! You are an awesome, uber popular, hilarious blogger!!

    Do you want me to kick them in the ovaries? Or put out a bloggy hit on them?

  33. Rebecca
    March 6, 2011 | 8:39 pm

    You have the prefect place to poke fun of them. Make fun of their weight? Height? Boob size? Zit on a nose? Walleyed? Cross-eyed? Smells funny? There has to be something to make fun of them about? Do you actually know more than them? Which would be funny because YOU are the student.

  34. B. WHITTINGTON
    March 6, 2011 | 8:44 pm

    It makes me sick that you are being treated so badly. I don't get what people, esp nurses, get out of bullying someone who is striving to do what they do and to do it well. You have something they don't like. Either you good looks, sassy attitude, or something that has pissed them off good.
    Smile a lot when you are with them. Teeth gritted, thinking soon I'll be out of here and won't have to see your faces or put up with this crap.
    Just know you have a lot of people here in blogger land rooting for your success. We need happy funny people in the world, like you.
    WIll be checking in to see how you are faring. I love your posts about the boys. Very funny. Barb

  35. JUST ME
    March 6, 2011 | 8:45 pm

    Some bullies never grow up. They just grow old.

    Here's hoping something will happen to those hags to make them realize that Karma is the biggest bitch of all.

  36. Linda Medrano
    March 6, 2011 | 8:57 pm

    Sandra, they hate you because you're beautiful. You can't help that anymore than they can help their thunder thighs and loose vaginas. It won't last forever. Suck it up and get through it. You'll still have tight legs and a snug whatchucallit.

  37. Justsayin'
    March 6, 2011 | 8:59 pm

    Try not to let them bring you down. It's probably just because your cooler and prettier than them and their just jealous ass clowns.

  38. Nicole
    March 6, 2011 | 9:10 pm

    That sucks. You know, people act a certain way because of their own insecurities and short comings. People who are happy with what they are do not behave like assholes (usually, we all have our bad days). So, it's their problem – even though it is terrible to spend time around such toxicity. Hug.

  39. myevil3yearold
    March 6, 2011 | 9:19 pm

    I'm so sorry Sandra. Is there anything you can totally get away with doing that would just annoy them to death? One time this guy I worked with was a real jerk. He made himself some coffee and went to the bathroom leaving his coffee on a table in the hallway. I opened two packets of salt and poured them in. No one saw me. The best part was his boss walked up to him and was asking him something very serious when he took a big swig of that coffee. The look on his face was priceless. I almost pissed myself.

  40. Mom of the Perpetually Grounded
    March 6, 2011 | 9:21 pm

    We never get too old for nastiness to hurt us even if we're pretty tough. You just need a good dose of mom. I always carry extra, here:

    They are just jealous because of those abs and because you are prettier than them. And smarter too. Do you want some icecream? Maybe next week you can get a new outfit : )

  41. Ms.Wasteland
    March 6, 2011 | 9:29 pm

    That's bullshit! I'm sure they're just jealous of your fabulousness. I know a guy who knows a guy who will “take care of the problem” for a six pack of cheap beer and a fifty.

  42. Mamma has spoken
    March 6, 2011 | 9:31 pm

    This really sucks to read! The situation, not the post…I would start a count-down to how many more days you have left with them. An actual physical count-down that you can have fun taking a day away. Sounds corny, but it's what I do to help get through those days. There's something satisfing about know how many more days you have to be there that makes it better.

  43. Impulsive Addict
    March 6, 2011 | 9:34 pm

    Want me to come there and cut a bitch or two? I'm not really sure what that means but all the cool kids are saying it and it sounds appropriate for this situation.

    I'm sorry you're being bullied. Keep your head up. Play some tricks on them and blog about it. We'll laugh with you!

  44. Yvonne
    March 6, 2011 | 9:36 pm

    Kick them in the ovaries! It always works for me. There are always going to be those types of people in our lives, unfortunately. Aside from telling you to kick them in the ovaries, the only comforting advice I can offer is to keep you chin up. It will get better for you!!! :)

  45. ChiTown Girl
    March 6, 2011 | 9:40 pm

    Fuck those fuckin' fucks!!!!

    I'm trying to be lady-like about this whole thing. Next time, I'll tell you what a really think. ;-)

  46. My name WAS Female, I shit you not!
    March 6, 2011 | 9:45 pm

    Ya know what I think the problem is with bitchy people ???

    They need to GET LAID!!!!

  47. Bouncin' Barb
    March 6, 2011 | 10:00 pm

    I would call them on the carpet and just tell them flat out “Look, you don't have to like me, but you do have to work with me. And furthermore, if you want to act like a couple of little assholes, I'll slap the snot out of you after hours”. Plain and simple!

  48. TheBabyMammaChronicles
    March 6, 2011 | 10:02 pm

    Ugh, I worry about this happening to me. I need to become more confrontational when necessary. Dont let these brats get you down Mama! You have worked too damn hard. They are probably jealous because they read your blog and heard your husband used to be a semipro hockey player.

  49. Deborah
    March 6, 2011 | 10:14 pm

    When people are mean to you it speaks volumes about who they are and nothing about who you are. They are clearly not happy with themselves or they wouldn't feel the need to take their unhappiness out on you. They might even feel intimidated by you…..your outgoing, funloving personality and your beauty.
    Hang in there, like you said, it will make you stronger and a much kinder, gentler nurse knowing you will never want to become like them! :)
    BTW, glad you posted, you don't always have to be “on” for us to enjoy what you have to say…

  50. dbs
    March 6, 2011 | 10:24 pm

    Bullies at work are a serious problem. We've all experienced it. And it sucks the life right out of you. Considering that you work in the “health” profession that seems doubly ironic. And wrong. I don't know what you can do except focus on the patients. And rise above all that shit.

  51. Ann
    March 6, 2011 | 10:40 pm

    I don't blame you for not feeling like being funny. That would totally suck. Hang in there, surviving the bullies will be your greatest revenge :)

  52. Peggy K
    March 6, 2011 | 10:46 pm

    Okay, Sweetheart…your assignment is to give brief consideration on what is blogworthy about those two little snots. Surely, there's plenty that your compadres here will just ROFL about, once you take the focus off how they are treating you (those bitches!!) and put the focus on how incredibly insignificant they are. So share!!!!

  53. From Tracie
    March 6, 2011 | 10:48 pm

    My oven is always available for “put a pizza in the oven” bucket list fulfillments, as long as I then get to eat said pizza.

    Bullies suck. Suuuuucccckkkk!!!!

    I'm so sorry that you are stuck in this. They are obviously so jealous of the fabulousness that is you, and so peeved that you didn't bow to their stupidity. You WILL make it through!

  54. Laoch of Chicago
    March 6, 2011 | 10:50 pm

    Ugh. I hope you can find an effective way to fight back.

  55. Alittlesprite
    March 6, 2011 | 11:03 pm

    I can't believe this kind of stuff goes on in an ADULT workplace. A hospital no less where compassion and caring should be the only things on their minds. Bitches!
    My sister in law is a nurse to and she has encountered a few bully's as well. You would think nurses would be the nicest of people but no, and it seems it's a world wide thing.
    I'm sorry you are in this situation. It sucks, big time.
    (HUG)

  56. Demented Duchess
    March 6, 2011 | 11:06 pm

    I'm half Italian from NY…want I should call in a favor? I got family…just sayin'.

    Continue being who you are and screw those bitches! The way you beat them is by practically skipping around their asses and singing Don't Worry Be Happy and joke and laugh at everything you can think of. They are not bothering your ass one bit!

    And when you leave, smile and wish them well…..what are they gonna do? Bitch about your sweetness? Lay it on thick! You can do this, they are the weak ones!

  57. Gigi
    March 6, 2011 | 11:08 pm

    Hugs. That's all I got today.

  58. The WholeFamDamily
    March 6, 2011 | 11:10 pm

    you are HUMAN. at least i think so, maybe. you're body can't be. but i digress…it's a total sad truth and shame that bullying never goes away! in all walks and years of life you find people that use that kind of behavior to make themselves feel better and put other people down. i'm sure it's strong in the workforce world, and seniority plays a huge part i'm sure.
    i think we should help each other and be compassionate, but that's just how i live my life, and i feel so bad that you're having to experience this when you're working so hard to accomplishing an amazing goal of yours!!
    keep ur chin up girlie, life isn't always sunshine and rainbows, and if you don't deal with it now then you may end up harboring huge resentments which will eat away at you. so allow yourself the time to heal and grieve and work through the feelings that come up with all of this.
    and then get a snickers bar, remember how much cooler you are than snippy ol' biddies and hold ur head up high. You're an amazing woman!!

  59. Bibliomama
    March 6, 2011 | 11:11 pm

    Yeah, blog sad. Before I blogged, I thought the mutual-admiration-society was the slightest bit lame. Once I was part of the mutual admiration, I realized it totally rocked. Your abundant comment love won't make the problem go away, but it should help a little.

  60. Lin
    March 6, 2011 | 11:24 pm

    Yikes. That sucks.

    Can you go to a higher up? I mean, if this is affecting your learning process, then I would say something. But you have to keep in on a professional level–don't attack them personally to their supervisor.

    In the meantime, I hope you can hang in there. I'm torn between saying shit back to them and just saying nothing. Or even confronting them on their lack of professionalism. I dunno. I'm just sorry that you are feeling low and having to deal with these two beasts every day.

    Hugs, pally. I know it doesn't help much, but you've got a lot of love from us.

  61. Raven
    March 6, 2011 | 11:26 pm

    Death to all bullies! They should be shot, skinned, stabbed, burned at the stake and forced to endure Rush Linbaugh's radio show for all of eternity. (Can you tell I was bullied in school?)

    Seriously though, I'm sorry this is happening, it must suck and not in a small way. I hope that things get better. If not, I know a few good curses. ;)

  62. Bridget
    March 6, 2011 | 11:29 pm

    I'm so sorry that those two have seemed to have forgotten what it is like to be in your shoes. I know from friends who were nursing students that there is plenty of stress without the Mean Girls adding to it. Just remember that you won't be working with them for very long and when this is all over, you are going to be one rockin' nurse!!!

    You got this, girl! You can do it.

    ((HUGS))

  63. Queen B
    March 6, 2011 | 11:32 pm

    1) I bet those stuck-up bitches could never generated 63+ comments!

    2) don't curl up in a ball…. the best defense to bullying is a good offense. bullies only survive because they have a knack for finding people's insecurities quickly and then use them to make themselves feel superior (obviously due to low self-esteem on their part). The best (and only, imo) way to combat bullying is to figure out their insecurities and pick at those. go get 'em!

    3) of course, never advise your kids on this method ;)

  64. Sarahf
    March 6, 2011 | 11:33 pm

    Bitchy coworkers suck. I have no advice, only hang in there because once it's over you can go back to embracing your new profession. And laughing at your kids.

  65. Misfits Vintage
    March 6, 2011 | 11:33 pm

    Dude,

    I am totally sending you my rock star from Mars zen ninja vibes across the planet – can you feel it, sister??? Bullying is not ok. Curling up and being victim is not ok either – shoulders back, look em in the eyes and laugh at their arseholery. What a bunch of pathetic bitches. You are so much better then them and you would never be a bully so carry your superiority like a fucking weapon. The less you are hurt by their behaviour, the less power they have. YOU ROCK. This will pass. You are awesome. Just say the word and I will come over there and go all Charlie Sheen on them.

    Sarah xxx

  66. ~ Darla ~
    March 6, 2011 | 11:45 pm

    Ohhh, I do not like mean girls. Especially mean girls that are probably just jealous of you. I not a nurse, but I am sure ashamed that they have bitchy people like that working in the nursing field.

    Actually I must say I kind of despise mean people in general. Sorry you have such a sad, pathetic life mean peeps…get over it.

  67. anSeL
    March 7, 2011 | 12:00 am

    just be cool about it. there's a lot more coming esp. in the real world of being a nurse-patient, their families, co-workers, etc.

    now i'm experiencing that type of bullying and i just shrugged my shoulders and thinking there's karma for you! yes, our supervisor is bullying us…

  68. Erin
    March 7, 2011 | 12:00 am

    So I saw “hit the bong” instead of “bang a gong” while reading and it made me laugh….Sorry not the point of your post, and those mean nurses SUCK!

  69. Saimi
    March 7, 2011 | 12:46 am

    Mean people are insecure people, they're just jealous of you.

    Hope it gets better!

  70. Dutch Sugar Babe
    March 7, 2011 | 12:47 am

    FORTUNATELY, you are no longer that little girl who runs away from the bully.

    Women can be such childish bitches for no reason whatsoever.
    They are just being mean, because they outnumber you. They will morph into little insecure girls when you go one-on-one.
    Bullies are sad people with sad sad lives.
    Jeez, people need to grow the fuck up.

  71. Canadianbloggergirl
    March 7, 2011 | 12:48 am

    Listen girl, my mother went to school in her 40s and she went through similar things as you. You can pull through this. The silver lining is that you probably look sexier in scrubs than they do.

    CBG
    canadianbloggergirl.blogspot.com

  72. Mean people suck

  73. Julianna
    March 7, 2011 | 1:30 am

    Here's hoping any one of these 73 comments will make you feel better.

    PS I spent most of Saturday night crying…

    Bullies and PMS suck.

  74. knitwit
    March 7, 2011 | 1:36 am

    I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It happened to me when I was doing my teacher training, and there was nothing I could do and no one I could complain to either, and I remember how that felt. After my last day in that bitch's classroom, I walked out with my head held high, went home, got blind drunk and cried into my rum and coke, all alone. The only hope I can give you is that eventually, you'll be out of there. The nice thing is that you're someplace where you can probably get your hands on a bottle of stool softeners, right? Do these bitches drink coffee? I think you know where I'm going with this…

  75. Antares Cryptos
    March 7, 2011 | 1:45 am

    As a mature student you have an advantage; chances are those two rarely meet someone who can stand up to them.

    Keep in mind, nurses have bosses…I'm just saying.

    Hang in there.

  76. Shell
    March 7, 2011 | 1:51 am

    I'm sorry you are dealing with this. The mean girls never really go away, do they?

  77. Lazarus
    March 7, 2011 | 1:53 am

    Sandra, surely someone with your creativity and sense of humor can come up with at least a few great practical jokes to play on these losers. Then get pictures and share the stories with your loyal audience. It's a win/win all the way around! Also, just to really cheer you up, you're referenced twice in the latest LG Report posting, life can't get much better than that! Good luck with bullies, my money is on you prevailing!

  78. Marty
    March 7, 2011 | 2:20 am

    And you haven't slapped the shit outta them yet?? Girl whatcha waitin' for?? Get busy!! Hope you have a better week!

  79. Jeanie
    March 7, 2011 | 2:33 am

    It's sad to see when kids are bullies, but adults….give me a break. Like someone above said, just remember how many people are on Team Sandra. You've got what it takes to get through even this.

  80. Portia
    March 7, 2011 | 2:43 am

    Bullies basically ruined my son's life for a while. Took quite a few years of homeschooling and a little therapy to help. He's not the same person he would have been. He was the good kid the teacher put with the not so good kids. You know, to make the not so good kid better. yeah, like that works.

    Anyway, hang in there. You know they are just jealous since they probably cannot rock a bikini the way you do!

  81. Nicky
    March 7, 2011 | 2:54 am

    Do they “grade” you? Is there some kind of evaluation they give at the end of your rotation? Is there an evaluation you are expected to submit at the end? If the answer to either of these questions is yes, then I highly recommend you start documenting everything. Every date, hour and obnoxious comment. Do what you have to do to successfully complete your rotation, but make sure you can fully protect yourself. And remember, you're better than them and they know it.

  82. The Onion
    March 7, 2011 | 3:25 am

    Its called “Relational Aggression” and this is how girls bully. Even little ones. And it sucks. Just ask my 10 year old daughter. Hang in there.

  83. Julie
    March 7, 2011 | 3:53 am

    Sandra, for some odd reason, old nurses (not always in age, in experience) seem to think they poo doesn't stink and they are godess. I worked in the nursing field for 12 years and I know. I learned along the way to have a thicker skin but I would go home each night and just cry. I stook (word?) it out and became better for it because I rememebered how I was treated and swore I would never let it happen to anyone under me or me to anyone.
    I am sorry life is this way right now. Try to find even just one other person that you can lean on, someone you can trust and remember this rotation won't last forever.
    Say a prayer before work and remember to lean on the Lord and he'll help you through this. Maybe like me, you'll be the one a neebie can lean on one day because you remembered.
    Take care Sandra and God Bless!!

  84. Alessandra
    March 7, 2011 | 4:04 am

    They're a couple of haters, and they can't stand you're better than them. I would document everything, then slash their tires on the last day of your rotation.

  85. Gigi
    March 7, 2011 | 4:25 am

    Hold your head high, girl…we love you. Don't let the rude little people get you down.

    Or we'll come over there and go Oklahoma on them.

  86. Cinderita
    March 7, 2011 | 5:37 am

    Everyone is entitled to some sad times. We don't expect you to be funny always. Thank you for sharing all that. Amazing what human beings do to eachother isn't it?

  87. Jill
    March 7, 2011 | 5:52 am

    You don't have to be funny all the time. That's not why I love you. I love you because you're honest!

    Ugh, shitty situation. I'm sorry. I think you have the right attitude that you have to grit your teeth and get through it. You ARE an adult and understand that people who behave that way are doing so out of massive insecurity and fear. It has nothing to do with you at all. It could be anyone. That's just how they deal with their problems. I know it doesn't make it any easier but you have a job to do. You're not there to make friends, you're there to help people and GET PAID so you can go home and be with your beautiful family.

    Thinking of you XOXOXOXOXOXO

  88. MikeWJ at Too Many Mornings
    March 7, 2011 | 6:03 am

    Mean people suck, Sandra. I know because I've had to deal with a lot of them in recent years. It hurts, and it hurts badly when they gang up on you. But you know what? They may help you find a part of yourself that's even stronger than you often appear to be here. I hope so, for your sake and mine.

    Thanks for being honest instead of pretending to be funny. I've been doing a lot of that myself lately, too. It's nice to see the other real Sandra.

  89. XLMIC
    March 7, 2011 | 6:14 am

    Holy Frijoles! 88 comments AND you are feeling like shit AND you come and visit MY blog!!!! You rock! Thanks so much for rallying and even leaving such a sweet, sweet comment! :) I sure do wish I could help you out with those mean 'girls'. I really think bringing treats and being almost unreasonably nice is the way to go… it will also help you feel better about the situation in general… I think :)

  90. DysFUNctional Mom
    March 7, 2011 | 6:30 am

    Ugh, my heart goes out to you. I worked in a hospital for over 4 years and one of my main jobs was to assist nurses. And I know firsthand that there are some fantastic, amazing nurses out there. And then there are some nasty, evil nurses out there. And I'm so sorry you've encountered the latter.
    I hope the rest of your time with them goes by quickly. And I'm so glad that you stood your ground with them!

  91. Deborah
    March 7, 2011 | 10:53 am

    Oh I do feel for you :o ( sending lots of love your way xxx

  92. ms. caboo
    March 7, 2011 | 12:37 pm

    Sorry I'm coming to the party late, Sandra. I know you can get through it. Just know those two women are feeling insecure and like crap (because they are), and really, they will treat everyone like that.

    The best way to get through is to get through with a smile on your face. It will irritate the hell out of them.

    Good luck! And it won't be forever.

  93. Lola
    March 7, 2011 | 12:41 pm

    Everyone has the right to a little sadness now and then. These women sound like major douche bags. AND I bet they don't look cute in Lulu Lemon. Actually they've probably never heard of it. Just don't be sad for TOO long (especially over jealous women). We don't want you to get permanent frown lines!

  94. SkippyMom
    March 7, 2011 | 12:51 pm

    Let's see – the word “jackwagon” comes to mind followed closely by the various “douches” – douchebag, douchenozzle and my personal fav' – douchecanoe – but, and I don't use the word as I find offensive, I think the word we are all thinking of starts with a C and ends with a UNT. [forgive me] They are offensive. I HATE women who cannot grow the eff up and act accordingly – it's like they never left middle school.

    Hang in there Sandra – we are all here if you need us. I wish I had sage words of advice but my coping skills in this area range from being mute and ignoring them to tripping the b*tches with my cane. [I vote for the latter personally - do I need to send you your own spiffy cane? They're great. giggle]
    Hugs my friend.

  95. Donna @ The House on the Corner
    March 7, 2011 | 2:00 pm

    I know it probably doesn't make you feel better but if anyone can handle them – you can!! Don't let them see it bothers you. That's what they want. Keep smiling, keep doing your thing – and be glad your experience with them is only temporary. There are people in their lives (I guarantee it) that wish is was a temporary relationship!

  96. Raquel's World
    March 7, 2011 | 2:13 pm

    Oh please stand up to these “stinky buttholes”. Do it for all the people who can't. surely you are not the first and won't be the last. AT the very least dedicate a part of your blog just to talking crap about them. You'll get stuff off your chest and feel support all at the same time. Worst case,,,whop their ass!

  97. Cake Betch
    March 7, 2011 | 2:23 pm

    I've been in that position before, working with a group of women that treated me like crap but would pretend like they were being sweet. It was EXHAUSTING and depressing and I was barely making enough money to fill my car up while I was there.

    I hope you don't have to stick around in this situation too long because it just isn't good for your mental state.

  98. TKW
    March 7, 2011 | 2:28 pm

    At any age, mean girls suck.

    Suggestion: make little voodoo dolls resembling said bitches. Enjoy applying some form of torture on them every day, such as stabbing repeatedly with sharp objects and gouging out eyes. It is oddly satisfying.

    Ahem. Not that I've ever done anything like that.

  99. Mama Zen
    March 7, 2011 | 2:43 pm

    That just sucks. I am wishing evil on them from afar.

  100. Heather
    March 7, 2011 | 3:33 pm

    I have been a nurse for over 15 years, and I can still remember vividly some of the bitchy nurses I worked with during nursing school. Women who had no business in our profession, who were clearly burned out and in need of a compassion-makeover.

    I survived (you will, too). And I used those experiences to make sure I NEVER treat a student the way I was treated.

    I'm sorry for your stress, and I hope your next clinical rotation makes up for this one. How much longer do you have until you graduate?

  101. HisBell
    March 7, 2011 | 4:17 pm

    Totally been there… and actually just last week. Which is weird, b/c usually sadness makes me want to write even more. But not this time. Curling into a ball sounds much better. But time will pass, we'll be stronger and those bitches will still be uglier than us. ;)

  102. Heather
    March 7, 2011 | 4:40 pm

    They suck.
    Can you play any pranks on them? How about some other passive aggressive revenge?? And take pictures. I bet you could think up something really good!!

    Keep your head up!

  103. Jenny Brown
    March 7, 2011 | 5:06 pm

    Sorry to hear things are going so great at work for you. Hang in there….I'll be hoping things get better soon. Sending Hugs!

  104. granny1947
    March 7, 2011 | 5:28 pm

    Of course you must blog when you are sad…that is what blogging is all about.
    Good for you standing up to them.
    Bullies are cowards…hanfg in there…you will get the better of them.

  105. twelvedaysold
    March 7, 2011 | 5:39 pm

    Ugh. The sad thing is, this isn't the first time I've heard of bullying with nursing students. It seems like that would be a “safe” profession from that happening, in my opinion.

    You can do this! It totally blows, but it'll go away. Sorry it's happening though :( I hate when people get mean just because they have someone beneath them.

  106. ryoko861
    March 7, 2011 | 5:53 pm

    O-M-G! How fucking childish are these women! What is this? Kindergarten??? What bug is up their asses?

    I have a neat little trick. Passive aggressive. Next time they have a phone number or important document laying on the desk that they'll need (and no one else will) take it and chuck it out! Be really discrete. Doesn't have to be hospital related.

    Yes, these women need to grow the hell up. This is a medical profession, not the local 7-11.

  107. Sylvia Marie
    March 7, 2011 | 6:07 pm

    People can be so cruel! Maybe it will eventually blow over. Don't feel alone in this, I think most of us have to go through it, and it is not fun! Even if you feel like your “funny” is gone, you're writing is not! You are great! I really enjoy your blog. :)

  108. meleah rebeccah
    March 7, 2011 | 6:17 pm

    Oh Sandra, I'm so sorry to hear this. being bullied at any age is just awful. Sending you love and virtual hugs.

  109. Hutch
    March 7, 2011 | 6:17 pm

    My parents are both nurses so I've been hearing about the drama that goes down my whole life. Some of them can be real bitches!

  110. like.thunder
    March 7, 2011 | 6:38 pm

    i hate bullies. they should all get a taste of their own medicine. i know it's tough especially when people are ganging up on you (even if there are only 2 of them) but i would try to be as bitchy to them as i can. nothing over the top, but everyone can roll their eyes, sigh and make people feel uncomfortable, right? i was bullied back in junior high by this popular girl with a few of her friends, and now she got really fat and wants to be my friend. i bask in her fatness with bitter bitter joy :D

    don't worry, you'll pull through and karma will prevail :)

  111. Sarah
    March 7, 2011 | 7:01 pm

    First time reader and commenter :)

    Sorry to hear about those bitches! There is no excuse for treating people that way. Obviously they have chosen the wrong career. It is a shame that you can't get anyone to intervene. How long are you going to be stuck with these wenches? Hopefully not much longer!

    I also had a sad Sunday, so I am in the same corner with you.

  112. nitebyrd
    March 7, 2011 | 7:06 pm

    They are pinhead, jealous bitches who are scared to death of a person smarter then they are. Yeah, it sucks but put on your big girl panties and ignore their shit, learn what you need to, 'cause you're gonna be the best freakin' nurse EVER!

  113. Kelley
    March 7, 2011 | 7:26 pm

    Awww!! My sweet friend! I'm so sorry they are being so mean. There is something about teachers at this stage of the game that makes them big mean fart-faces. My MIL went back to school to be a dental hygienist at the age of 56. The nurses you are dealing with sound like the ladies she had to deal with. It was a stressful time for her. She receives much joy in seeing those meanies at professional meetings now. One day you will see them again and can laugh in their face. They're not going to bring you down forever! You are awesome and we love you!

    (P.S. Still working on the husband and that BlogHer deal. So glad to know the King-size bed offer still stands! Ha!)

  114. blueviolet
    March 7, 2011 | 7:35 pm

    That would suck the funny right out of you and I'm so terribly sorry that you're going through it. :(

  115. pattypunker
    March 7, 2011 | 8:05 pm

    oh no they dont! they don't take the fun and funny out absolutely narcissistic. you go in there every shift and feel sorry for them! you find them laughable. you make fun of them under your breath. they don't win. you get your fun back!!!!

  116. Colleen
    March 7, 2011 | 8:35 pm

    These peeps are nurses? Really? How can you be in a position where some sort of kindness and compassion need to be in your nature, as your devoting your time to CARING for people, and then treat someone so sh*tty?!!
    Didn't anyone tell them that being a mean girl is so not cool anymore.

    Thinking of how this would make me feel, and how I'm sure it's making you feel makes my heart break for our kids who I'm sure handle some form of this on a regular basis.

    Stay strong, don't let those witches ruin your learning experiences. Karma is a b*tch; they'll get theirs.

  117. Holly Ruggiero
    March 7, 2011 | 9:26 pm

    That is horrible. It’s horrible that they let these women get away with being nasty. I’m sorry you have to endure this. Kimberley’s second post made me laugh maybe it made you laugh too.

  118. Tipsy - tipsyreader.com
    March 7, 2011 | 10:24 pm

    It's ok! Everyone goes through their “I feel like crap” days, weeks, etc. Don't let those silly nurses effect you too much! They're just unhappy with their own lives. You rock sister!

  119. Ameena
    March 7, 2011 | 11:02 pm

    Oh my friend – I am so sorry you have to go through this! There are always one or two in every situation, right? It's really unfortunately that no matter how old we get we somehow keep encountering them? It sucks. I wish I had something more helpful to say but I understand what you are going through…I really do!

  120. According to Tracy, Squared
    March 8, 2011 | 12:01 am

    When in doubt, focus on the fact that you have a family and a hubby that you love. Some miserable people are miserable AND they go home to more misery and people they hate.

  121. The Chicken's Consigliere
    March 8, 2011 | 1:51 am

    I totally spend at least 16 hours a week being talked about behind the back, having eyes rolled at me, and having mean tricks played on me. I go to work to get away from my kids. (sorry they are being jerks. Let's make fun of them here. Losers)

  122. MommaKiss
    March 8, 2011 | 10:55 am

    Well. You're entitled to a sad day. Absolutely. This whole bullying sitch, I've been there. I somewhat stuck up for myself, but it didn't change anything. Bitches. thing is? I moved on and UP. They? are still in the same old position.

  123. Jessica B
    March 8, 2011 | 6:15 pm

    Sandra, I'm glad you wrote about feeling sad. Because putting it out there sometimes takes the weight off. Not to mention all of the awesome advice you've been given! My favorite (besides the hysterical name calling) was to be brutally honest about them in a performance review. If you don't get to do an official one, make one up when you finish your rotation, and turn it in to the charge nurse. I guarantee their actions will have some repercussions, at the very least, it will make you feel better about cluing someone (in charge) in to what you had to put up with.

    Chin up girl, you'll be OK. I have tons of faith in you. :)

  124. Pearl
    March 8, 2011 | 6:18 pm

    I thought nurses are compassionate human beings? I thought they were prepared and trained to help…Sandra, you should go tell your teacher about this. Those nurses are impostors! Surely, they should be reported… How could they treat you like that? What would they gain if they make your life a hell in the hospital?
    hugs to you sandra:-)

  125. Nari
    March 8, 2011 | 7:19 pm

    Those nurses are just jealous bitches from hell. They hate how great you look in your nursey wear. They clearly need to comfort themselves and their pathetic miserable lives by torturing others.

    You can either get through it with the inner peace of knowing you are a far better person than they are OR…you can figure out their insecurities and rip them out into the open for all to see and ridicule.

    Either way, you have my full support!

  126. Sherri
    March 8, 2011 | 7:29 pm

    i had the same exact problem when i was in nursing school.. during rotations…such cliques of employees… and we the students, well we were their slaves. they demanded that we do all the patient care, we did all the grunt work, plus all the other stuff they thought we should do… then it would be charted in a way that made us look incompetent… a group of us students decided to rebel…stand up against the machine! and guess what? they knocked us back down on our blue pin stripped asses… oh well… there is an end… it is not going to last forever… that's what we clung to… and we made it! sorry you are having to go through this…

  127. 7ladybugz
    March 9, 2011 | 12:19 am

    Karma Baby Karma :) Make some chocolate brownies and make sure they get some :) Oops did some chocolate Exlax get mixed in with them? My bad! *evil grin* I thought it was dark chocolate :)

    ~HUG~ just know that you are better than them and they are just jealous becuase they don't have awesomely cool friends like you do :)

  128. purplume
    March 9, 2011 | 2:17 am

    Twice, I've worked with nurses who made my life hell, well no three times.
    A male nurse, I commiserated to said, Well, you know nurses eat their young.
    Maybe a lot of hot sauce or brown sauce, all over yourself will keep them from wanting to eat you.
    I'm sorry you are having this happen to you.

  129. My Big Secret Blog :)
    March 9, 2011 | 11:21 pm

    Sammie, I am sorry you're sad. Will a hug do? It'll be over soon. Stay nice.

  130. Kato
    March 10, 2011 | 8:01 pm

    Wow. Bitches. Seriously. Just chalk it up to the fact that they are jealous of you for whatever reason. Maybe its because you are happier than them? Prettier? NICER?
    Bitches.

    I hate bullies. They are just little people with even littler thoughts.

    Remember that every time you look at them.

  131. The Adorkable Ditz
    March 10, 2011 | 8:21 pm

    I know how you feel, thankfully I haven't had to deal with bullies in a while so I haven't been put under that stress recently. However, it's only a matter of time.

  132. Holly
    March 10, 2011 | 10:59 pm

    Awww, I love you and I just bloggy met you. How can anyone be so mean.

    Sooo, I was just at a play group and the host was a nurse supervisor (Is that the title?) for like, EVER and said the nurses she supervised were either totally amazing or like 4th grade B-words.

    Sorry you got stuck with 4th grade B-words.

    Lentil soup makes me fart. I'm telling you because I would fill myself on some lentil soup and fart every time I walked passed them if they were with a patient or something so they seem like the smell ones. That is mature right?

  133. JoJo
    March 11, 2011 | 3:30 am

    I can't stand mean nurses! They makes us awesome ones look bad! I'm a recent grad and just began my career as a nurse and I remember as a student I had some God awful nurses working with me. They put themselves one pedestal and for some reason think they're too important and entitled to help out a student. At least it's only one clinical and hopefull you'll have better mentors in your next one.Don't let them get you down, They're old washed up grouchy nurses and they probably are just jealous.

  134. Crystal Escobar
    March 11, 2011 | 8:23 pm

    Oh man, I'm so so sorry to hear that. I've been there before, it is not a fun situation, especially when you feel like you have nobody on your side.
    I hope it gets better for you soon, and shame on these ladies. What the heck, don't they know that high schools over? Seriously.

  135. Tracey Axnick
    March 15, 2011 | 12:00 am

    I've been out of the “blog circle” for a few days thanks to hubby's surgery but I hope things are getting better. As someone who has been bullied in the past (by GROWN WOMEN… and sadly, it's always WOMEN, isn't it? I HATE that about our sex… we can be so catty and MEAN to one another, when we really COULD and SHOULD be ruling the frikkin world!)…
    Anyway, where I was GOING with all that WAS… karma (or the Golden Rule, or however you want to look at it) is an Inviolable Law. It is a FACT of life and as REAL as gravity. These two Nasty Wenches WILL get the “fruit” of the bitter seeds they've planted. It's simply a matter of time.
    YOU just hold your head high, be PROUD and be STRONG. You have absolutely nothing to be worried or scared of.
    Now go kick some ass, girl. ;0

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