Blogging lessons

I came into the blogging world relatively stupid.

I had just finished participating in a figure competition which had consumed my every thought for 8 months, not to mention several brain cells.
Starvation will do that to you.

See, I made the picture teeny-tiny so you couldn’t accuse me of showing off. Again.

After the competition, however, I felt lost.
Displaced.
Hungry.

I knew if I didn’t find something else to throw my energies into, I would go in search of other competitions, and quite frankly, as much as I love to flaunt myself, there are limits even to my narcissism.

So, quite literally, out of the blue, I announced to my family, “I’m going to start blogging.”

I had no idea what blogging was.

I had never even read a blog.

Writing has always been my first love.
So fast-forward in my mind to my blog exploding onto the scene.
Book deals.
Movie deals.
Sitcoms.
Memoirs.
My mind had me jet-setting all over the world for book signings, movie premieres, red carpet events.

So in May, 2010, through the help of Blogger.com, I started up an account, and away I went.
I had no idea what I was supposed to write about.
But I wrote.
I wrote about any thought that crossed my mind.

And then, I’d check my blog.
And wait for the comments.
Where were they?
Where was my fame?
Where was my fortune?
If it didn’t come quick, like in a month, I’d have to register for my nursing classes, and well, nursing would interfer with the red carpet events.

Then, one day, there it was, that first comment from Poppy over at Funny or Snot.
Of course, I clicked on her name, and imagine that, it brought me back to her blog.
And I read it.
And I loved it.
And I started reading the comments that people were leaving her.
And I clicked on their links.
And read their blogs.
And enjoyed several more.

Before I knew it, I was hopping all over the blogosphere, reading every blog I could.
Following every blog I could.
Because isn’t that what I was supposed to do?
Click on their “Follow Me” button? Show them that I’d been there and I’d liked them.
And quite frankly, wouldn’t they be happy that I was following them?
Because come on, when you see that number go up even by 1, it’s better than free stuff in the mail.

So off I would go, reading and following.
Reading and following.

I have my favourites that I keep up with.
I have my “circle of friends” that I read because their posts are like conversation.

I see other bloggers who have left comments here and there on other blogs; bloggers that I had followed a long time ago, and somehow in my travels, I’ve forgotten then. But then I see their nickname, the title of their blog receiving an award, and I’m like, “Oh right, I remember her, she’s the chick with the triplets!” And off I go to catch up on her life.

The problem is, though, I’m discovering that perhaps my method wasn’t the proper one.
Perhaps I wasn’t suppposed to gobble up all of these blogs.
Perhaps I was supposed to only read as many as I could faithfully read every single day until death do us part.

Because I received an email the other day from a blogger who said that she came to read me, and usually she doesn’t hit the “Follow Me” button unless she’s prepared to come back regularly.
Really?
‘Cause I hit the “Follow Me” button a lot. Like a lot.
I love it.
I feel like it’s a token of my affection.
Hey you! I came! I read! I laughed! Click!

Well, for those of you I’ve offended because I’ve only come by a couple of times, maybe even only that one time when I clicked “Follow Me” then never came back, I’m sorry.

But the blogging world is vast.
And I feel like our paths will meet over and over again, so I don’t feel this responsibility to read every single blog I’ve followed, before I’m allowed to move on to others.

Here’s the thing: if I’ve come to your blog, didn’t like you at all, I probably left quietly through the back door. You did not get your “Follow Me” button clicked.
But if I like you, I will “Follow You.”
It doesn’t mean you have to do it back to me.
Although, I won’t lie: I love it.

But I am now realizing that blogging is more complex than I had once thought it was.
And the funny thing is, despite all my dreams of fame and fortune, my favourite part of blogging is no longer composing the posts, but going off, and reading yours.

And when I discover a new blog, and I inevitably click the “Follow Me” button, it probably makes me happier than it does you.

So don’t be offended.
I’m trying to read as fast as I can.

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122 Responses to Blogging lessons
  1. Yvonne
    January 28, 2011 | 5:59 am

    I'd hit the “Follow” button but I did that months ago! ha!

  2. Momma Jorje
    January 28, 2011 | 6:02 am

    Well dang girl! I totally appreciate that +1 even if you're not reading. I'm really wanting that # to go up!

  3. The Empress
    January 28, 2011 | 6:03 am

    Well said.

    I got called out with an email about a week ago, from someone who said I didn't have time to read anyone anymore.

    That hurt. I try to do the best I can. But I also click the follow button. I only do it if I like the blog. It's my way of saying, “I like you, even if I can't come every day, I like you enough to follow you.”

    And, after all, it's not like they're a church or something.

    love you, girl.

    And quit showing off that bod.

  4. The Adorkable Ditz
    January 28, 2011 | 6:19 am

    I'm like you, but I only hit the button if I'm sure I'm going to love the person's posts and if I'm just gonna keep seeing them everywhere! Haha.

    http://theadorkableditzmissteps.blogspot.com/

  5. Booyah's Momma
    January 28, 2011 | 6:23 am

    I sometimes forget you're Canadian. And then you throw in words like “favourite” and it just makes me giggle.

    Anyway!

    I'm always impressed by how you get around. And I mean that in a good way. Your comments at my place are always thoughtful and I can tell you've actually read it.

    What is your secret? Does Canada have more hours in the day than we do??

  6. A Daft Scots Lass
    January 28, 2011 | 6:30 am

    I follow over 200 blogs and I read them at least once a week. My regular reads I read and comment daily.

    Everyone has a different way of blogging but I've often felt I should cut down on the blogs I read and comment more…och well..

  7. Coffeypot
    January 28, 2011 | 6:32 am

    Well, thank you for following me…and I don't blame you if you don't come back. I AN’T FOR EVERYONE! However, I do love my regulars and follow them (you) faithfully. Like you, I do check out those who comment or hit the follow button, but I may not go back to their site. I also do not worry about who is reading or following me, tho I do crave the comments. Blogging can be an evil bitch sometimes.

  8. Coffeypot
    January 28, 2011 | 6:33 am

    Oh! Your freaking HOT, too.

  9. Queen B
    January 28, 2011 | 6:59 am

    you crack me up. love it!

  10. The Restaurant Manager
    January 28, 2011 | 7:06 am

    I'm with you: I like writing my blog but I love going out and finding new blogs to read as well as reading the ones I've already found! Most of the time when I get home from work my family is sleeping so I have a lot of time to read!

    Thanks for posting!

  11. Myya
    January 28, 2011 | 7:18 am

    I follow for different reasons. Some because I really enjoy thier stories some because I feel like we are old friends & some jsut because. I don't follow too many though because I like to read & keep up. I'm annoying like that LOL. Oh & If that bikini pic was of me I'd have it as my freakin background on my blog.

  12. LilPixi
    January 28, 2011 | 7:26 am

    I'm so guilty of the same, but hey, it's just our style. I think there are a good number out there who do the same as well.

    (Btw, there's an award for you over at my blog on the “Blog Gems” page)
    I had to make you a recipient because you're awesome & your pizazz makes me LOL.

    Much love, Pixi.

  13. Laoch of Chicago
    January 28, 2011 | 7:51 am

    Do you miss the gym?

  14. Dewi Citra
    January 28, 2011 | 8:07 am

    I don't mind and I do like to click “follow” button too. It is like putting a vote on someone, and I think that he/she will like it. Same reason as yours :)

  15. Holly
    January 28, 2011 | 8:22 am

    I do the same as you and I catch a post here and there. There's only so much time and the family has to eat and I have to sleep… LOL!! There are some I follow more regularly than others. The ones that interact with me, I interact with regularly, though. And then there are the ones that maybe don't come to mine much, but I enjoy theirs and follow close anyways!!

  16. The Vegetable Assassin
    January 28, 2011 | 8:43 am

    I always feel kind of bad because I don't ever click the “follow” button anywhere. But I do follow. Everyone! On my Google Reader which is easier for me to keep track of all my stuff in one place. But then people probably think I'm an asshole not following them back. Even though I AM! I am there lurking I'm just not on the follow grid. I should just go click the 200 blogs I read and have done with it but I like my secret stalki…I mean, reading. :)

  17. LL Cool Joe
    January 28, 2011 | 8:49 am

    I must admit I feel that if someone follows my blog I have to return the favour. It seems rude not to. But that is the wrong attitude to have because you end up following so many blogs that you just don't relate to at all.

    I think blogging is also about loyalty. I make an effort to comment on blogs where the person comments on mine.

    Good post.

  18. Thisisme.
    January 28, 2011 | 9:41 am

    I must admit, I often wondered how you coped with over 1,000 Followers! I imagined you chained to your laptop 24/7, with the family screaming in the background!! I've only got 53 followers, but that takes quite a bit of keeping up with. Most of us seem to post every day and comment on every single post. I guess we all do it in different ways, but I love it how it has brought so many lovely people into my life.

  19. nuttycow
    January 28, 2011 | 10:33 am

    There's a “follow me” button?

    Wow. I've been missing out, obviously.

    If I find a blog and like it, I grab their RSS and chuck it in Google Reader. If I *really* like them they go in the file “comment on” and if I'm not sure they just go in “blogs”.

    Ruthless, maybe, but it does mean I don't forget people.

  20. Polly
    January 28, 2011 | 10:45 am

    Blogging is supposed to be fun, do it however you please, and be darned if anyone tells you otherwise.

  21. Nicky
    January 28, 2011 | 11:08 am

    When blogging, whether posting or reading, becomes an obligation, it's time to give it up!

  22. Gigi
    January 28, 2011 | 11:13 am

    I'm one of those that only “follow” if I KNOW I'm going to want to read everything that is written. So I tend to lurk a lot before I commit. What can I say – I'm commitment-shy. I'd like to blog-hop more and get to know more people – but I just can't find the time!

  23. Canadianbloggergirl
    January 28, 2011 | 11:48 am

    We started nearly around the same time blogging, like you I had no idea what I was doing. But we found each other, and I felt a connection with you because of our Canadian blood. But I also found you down right hysterical.

    You are a busy woman, and still find time for your bloggy friends, and all of us (if I may speak on their behalf) appreciate it.

    CBG
    canadianbloggergirl.blogspot.com

  24. Jojo
    January 28, 2011 | 11:50 am

    To follow or not follow…some days it's just hard to keep up.

    Personally my ego isn't tied to the number of followers of my blog and at least once a week I do try to make my rounds reading those I follow. As we all know, it's not always easy.

    Though I would like to share my blogging pet peeve. Leaving a comment takes time and I honestly cannot understand why some bloggers “respond” to a readers comments on their own blogging page. The blogger doesn't visit/read the commenter's blog expecting that once you've read their blog and taken time to leave a comment, that you will then return to their blog to go to the same post to see their additional comments to your comment. Seriously??? I'm just not a double-dipping blog reader.

  25. SkippyMom
    January 28, 2011 | 12:07 pm

    I'll let you off the hook for my little part of the blogasphere.

    I have been meaning to tell you that you that I am shocked everytime I see a comment from you on my blog. I am very flattered that you take the time to come over and read what ever I have spit out that day. I don't expect anyone to read my lil' blog, but especially not someone who is as busy as you – but you have been a Tadpole since day one – will remain one even if I never hear from you again.

    I am thankful everyday for all my friends and as long as I know you are over here, making funny and are doing fine I am happy. You don't have to comment to keep me around ;D.

    And people who b*tch about you not coming back are rude. Well, they are more than that, but I am trying to be a lady. [yeah, right]

    Love ya!

  26. Flying high in the sky....
    January 28, 2011 | 12:13 pm

    :) yes … i too click follow button only when i want to come back to the blog… also…if somebody has taken out time to read me (i don't like the term FOLLLOW..) i add them in my blog roll…

  27. Snuggle Wasteland
    January 28, 2011 | 12:28 pm

    People need to get over themselves. There are only so many hours in the day and we all have real lives to lead.

    I think you're fabulous and I lurve your blog but I don't ever get offended if I haven't heard from you in a while.

  28. Deborah
    January 28, 2011 | 12:28 pm

    #1 I am having a hard time hating you because you're adorable. But I'm telling you, you need to show at least ONE FLAW on that body. Just one. For realz. Please. Heh

    #2 Please don't worry about one cranky-arse. Let's just read what we want and follow what we love and enjoy. Am I wrong? Because you know you're hilar yes?

    smooches

  29. Just Plain Tired
    January 28, 2011 | 1:02 pm

    Pretty much sums up my thoughts. I don't get around to other blogs as much as I used to, or like to. Hopefully that'll change as we get the new guy trained at work and my hours get back to normal soon.

  30. Making It Work Mom
    January 28, 2011 | 1:06 pm

    Honestly who knew how complicated blogging was. I didn't know I was going to have to learn a whole new social code. I am like you. If I read something and I enjoyed it then I follow, what's the harm right. And if they are anything like me it will put a smile on their face. I read what I can and I comment when I want to. How is that for being a rebel!!!

  31. Joann Mannix
    January 28, 2011 | 1:10 pm

    You know, every time I come over here and see your 1,543 comments on top of the fact that you never miss one of my lengthy tomes that usually start out with “Four Score And Seven Years Ago..” (Oh wait a minute, you're Canadian. If that went over your head, it's just another way of saying, one of my snoozefests) I always think, “How the freak does she do it?” And on top of it, you've got kids clacking their balls. And you're doing the nursing thing. You must not sleep.

    But seriously, here's the thing, I used to kill myself reading blogs and following because I have this deep sense of guilt if I don't get around to everyone. I got tired of killing myself and sitting over my laptop, a constant stream of drool running down my face, because I was too busy reading to even swallow. And as hard as it has been for me, Miss Guilt, I read what I can and that's about it. People come here because they want to hear the funny. You do what you can do and then free yourself from the chains of blog reading. It's a good thing.

    And what the hell? I must have your tips. Tell me. Besides starvation, what else? Weights are involved, right? Because I body pump and you cannot get a smokin' bod like that without a little weight training. Looking fabulous, my friend. And blow that picture up. Be proud! You starved for that!

  32. Sherri
    January 28, 2011 | 1:13 pm

    you hit some things in your post that are so absolutely true! i follow blogs i love to read… and i cruise around their friends pages too… i could spend hours upon hours reading…

    and the numbers… so many pay close attention to the number of page loads or daily visits for their blogs… i don't necessarily visit the actual blog when i read….i use google reader otherwise i would lose track of who i'm reading when something new gets posted… so my “hits” on their blogs only count if i go leave a comment…

    and that offends many! but honestly, i don't have time to load 200 blog pages per day… just not time for it….

    PS – we are power lifters in this house … love your body pics… and we understand the dedication and hard work that goes into it… great job!!

  33. ms. caboo
    January 28, 2011 | 1:21 pm

    Hey Sandra: I read your blog every week. It's one of the few I follow. I decided that I just couldn't hit join every time I read someone's blog, even though I feel like I should. I try and read all the blogs I follow every week, and leave comments so they know I'm alive and I'm paying attention.

    It's really a matter of choice, so people shouldn't be hurt or offended if you don't follow their blog!

    Oh, life is so complicated! :)

  34. LilPixi
    January 28, 2011 | 1:25 pm

    BTW, regarding that picture…..
    Could you give me lessons on how to officially be a superwoman?

    I admired you for being a mom of many & putting yourself through nursing school, but now this is just ridiculous & you're showing all females up(lol)-building a body like that too?!? You are officially an idol!

  35. Jeannie
    January 28, 2011 | 1:37 pm

    The blogmos is like high school. I never understood the rules then either. Do whatever you want.

    And if I had a body like yours, I'd flaunt it too.

  36. Pepe Le Pew
    January 28, 2011 | 1:44 pm

    If my wife had your body, I would burn all of her clothes.

  37. Sarah
    January 28, 2011 | 1:57 pm

    I'm fast and free with the follow button also. ain't no shame in it.

    I feel the same way you do – there's no way I could keep up with every blog i follow.

    It's okay with me. as long as you don't mind me lurking around here. There aren't too many blogs that make me actually LOL.

    Although, seeing your body building photo kind of makes me sick – you look fabulous! gah, I wish i could do that.

  38. twilightgazing
    January 28, 2011 | 2:03 pm

    Hey, you work so hard to get that gorgeous body, so you have every right to flaunt it!

    The most important thing is to enjoy your blogging, whether that is reading or writing and it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks or emails to you, because you certainly give others enjoyment.

  39. Bouncin' Barb
    January 28, 2011 | 2:40 pm

    I'm glad you wrote this. I too am at a point that in order to keep up with all the blogs I follow it consumes my day. I have little time to write a blog let alone my book that I haven't touched in forever it seems. But I love reading these blogs. I'm guilty. And when I get a comment from you my dear, it sends me over the moon!

  40. Brandy Rose
    January 28, 2011 | 2:41 pm

    I'm not offended. As long as you visit when you can :D

  41. Annabelle
    January 28, 2011 | 2:43 pm

    Confession:

    If I see that I will be one of many many many comments, I usually don't bother to comment.

    I like to add a fresh perspective and if all I have to say has basically been said, what's the point?

    Also, I don't follow many folks. I put your (and others) on my google feeder, but I don't follow. I see everyone's new posts this way and it's what I was doing before I understood “follow”.

    Love your space here – read it all the time.

  42. Ashley
    January 28, 2011 | 2:47 pm

    I tend to follow a lot of blogs as well and not always keep up with all of them. Sometimes you lose interest and that's expected.

    Love your posts, keep them coming.

    And…look at you! AMAZING picture, so wish I had the determination to get into that kind of shape.

  43. Mrs. Hyde
    January 28, 2011 | 2:49 pm

    I know how you feel. I used to follow everyone that followed me. I felt obligated to do so. Then, it got to be too much because I was following so many blogs. Now, I don't do that, but I do make it a point to stop by and at least comment.

    a bitch called mom

  44. KittyCat
    January 28, 2011 | 2:49 pm

    My problem is there are soooo many great blogs out there and not nearly enough time for me to read every one of them. I work full time and have two kids (1 a teen)

    I dont want to miss anything but at the same time my sportsman gets really pissed that Im always on the computer. : (

    So then i find myself sneaking to read at work.

    Its all good though.
    i learn alot from other bloggers.

  45. jules
    January 28, 2011 | 2:51 pm

    (We all just clicked on the picture to see it larger! ha ha)

    I kind of test out the waters. I click follow if I like you, but then if I end up not being entertained continuously by their blogs after a few months I do stop following. Harsh, I know, because I am devastated when I loose a follower, but really, you never know who it was that stopped following..wait, right? I know I don't.

    Anyway, your stories always make me laugh and I don't plan to ever stop following!

  46. Jessica
    January 28, 2011 | 2:59 pm

    I'm the same way as you! I'll follow and comment when I have time. Blogging and reading is fun, it shouldn't be a commitment, I don't expect every single one of my followers to read every day. :)

  47. jdcoughlin
    January 28, 2011 | 3:04 pm

    These blogging rules, they keep popping up. If you ask me, and even if you don't I want to tell you, It's the internet. I mean, we're having conversations, establishing relationships with people we have never met, will never meet. It is a minute in time. We come together and then we go on our way. Its briefness makes it no less meaningful, but should also dictate that it falls outside the normal constraints of RULES. No rules, just sharing. No rules, just engaging. No rules, just meeting, conversing, enriching each of us.

  48. Baby Sister
    January 28, 2011 | 3:06 pm

    I prefer to read other blogs than write most days as well…it's more fun!! I already know what's going on in my life. :)

  49. Great(ish) Expectations
    January 28, 2011 | 3:09 pm

    I've been following you for a while- love your blog!

  50. Texan Zombie Goddess
    January 28, 2011 | 3:13 pm

    I follow blogs all the time. Like you, if I like you, I'll follow you, because eventually I will find my way back again. I put a select few on my
    “read these too” section on my blog because I find them fun, witty, interesting, thought-provoking, etc. I posted the other day about someone “un-following” me because I thought it was funny and think I sounded a tad egotistical lol. Hell, I don't have like 4000 followers, just a mere 55. You notice those things!

    The follow button is like telling a stranger, “Hey, I like your earrings!” We all deserve to be liked once in a while :) .

  51. MamaKK922
    January 28, 2011 | 3:44 pm

    You are so funny. I do the same thing. i think clicking follow me is saying I LIKE you. It's like you're in my mind sometimes. LOL. But this was a hilarious post. I love reading your blog.

  52. Polly Scott
    January 28, 2011 | 3:51 pm

    I enjoy reading blogs because I like people. I learn about myself when I read about others. We all struggle with thoughts like this. I too enjoy the blogs where I find good conversation. I write humor. That's been great because people comment about how I put a grin on their face. It's alway nice to know you've made someone's day either through what you've written or because you read their blog.

    http://comingtogrips.net

  53. Lin
    January 28, 2011 | 3:53 pm

    Do you go through your blogroll and clean it out? I do. I “unfollow” any blogs that have closed shop or I just don't like anymore. Blogs are like ourselves–constantly changing. And sometimes we outgrow each other and that is okay.

    I'm never offended if you don't come by often. Hell, I don't get through my blogroll but once or twice a week if I'm lucky. We're busy, so I think everyone understands.

  54. The WholeFamDamily
    January 28, 2011 | 3:55 pm

    haha, it can totally get overwhelming cuz there are a bazillion blogs out there! i don't follow every single one i read, but if i know i'd want to read it on a daily basis, i usually follow.
    ya, i totally will read you everyday, maybe a couple times a day. did that sound dirty? pssh, whatevs..;p

  55. Julie
    January 28, 2011 | 4:12 pm

    holy fuck! you've been blogging for less than a year and you have over 1000 followers? how the hell did you do that? i have been blogging for 4 yrs and haven't even hit 40? what the fuck am i doing wrong? oh right. you are hysterical, have interesting posts and lay it all out there with incredible wit. maybe i should try that! ;-)

  56. Rox
    January 28, 2011 | 4:17 pm

    Holy moly..my comment just got lost in all of these other ones.

  57. R @ TravelistaRN
    January 28, 2011 | 4:24 pm

    I am going to fully admit that I am a bad blogger – heck, I can't even manage to blog or comment on a regular basis. I totally enjoy reading blogs more than writing them.

    I found your blog because you followed me but I followed yours because I loved your posts. I agree that if I clicked follow on your blog, you must have put something up that piqued my interest!

  58. Valerie
    January 28, 2011 | 4:48 pm

    I second your philosophy. Last time I looked, it was your blog, and your rules. I hit “follow” if I like your blog. I don't get offended if people don't “follow me back.”

    I actually felt 'dirty' after a blog hop once because I felt everyone was just stopping by, saying “I'm following you – please follow me back” like a one night stand. Some I did follow back, but some – well, I did not. No offense to some of these ladies, but while my blog isn't everyone's thing, there are many out there that are not “my thing.” They wait, they unfollow. Whatever. I'm not in it for the followers, but I like meeting new bloggers too – I'm blogging for my friends, family, and anyone who really gives a damned about a retired woman's journey through “what's next” after dumping a 25-career and potential “bank.” That's it. The number of followers means nothing if you share nothing but a number. I may blog this shit later, now that I think of it.

    Sandra – I love to read your blog, even when I'm snorting food and drink out my nose because of it – and you are not a bad blogger. The blogosphere is vast – you have to make your corner of it cozy. Rock on, sister!

  59. Kristen
    January 28, 2011 | 5:04 pm

    I”ll admit I was pretty thrilled to see that you had “followed me”…. when I clicked back on your page to see who you were and then I saw how many followers you had… I thought, YES!!! I'm famous!!! Yup, that's the type of loser I am! lol

  60. Sodermoto
    January 28, 2011 | 5:09 pm

    I agree with you that when your follow me number goes up it is like Christmas. And like Christmas, you don't care who the presents come from, just that there are a few for you to rip open. :) I try to read everyones but then I just end up reading the ones that I read every week.

  61. Saimi
    January 28, 2011 | 5:12 pm

    I love blogging and have met great fellow bloggers such as yourself…If I read a blog, I will comment it's what I do, maybe I just like having the last word HA!

    I also found not everyone is in for the conversation and just want the followers..Those are the people that never come back for a visit.

    You learn real quick who your friends are and who isn't.

    Great post Sandra, I couldn't have said it better!

  62. becca
    January 28, 2011 | 5:27 pm

    i feel honored and loved that you follow me and like you i read click follow. i also read all the blogs i follow daily i just don't always comment because well sometimes i just have nothing to say or not sure what is the right thing to say. any ways great post and hugs for job well done

  63. Noelle
    January 28, 2011 | 5:28 pm

    You crack me up. I follow and then unfollow blogs all the time. If they don't hold my attention I don't usually go back. But YOU…Miss I Have 1,000 plus followers, a million comments, and a body to die for (and I'm with Joann…if you've got it, show it off) could you give a blogging tutorial???

    Have a great weekend!

  64. Bird Shit and Baby Caca
    January 28, 2011 | 5:29 pm

    DAMN GIRL! you are smokin!!!
    you took the words right out of my mouth with this post, have you been poking around in my head? LOL

  65. Rebecca
    January 28, 2011 | 5:33 pm

    You have made comments on my blog and every comment thrills me. Thanks for commenting and I'm glad I'm following because with as much as your comments thrill me, your words thrill me just as much.

    AND, I'm not going to stop bugging you about your egg kids. You have twin grand baby eggs, right?

  66. Big Fat Gini
    January 28, 2011 | 5:39 pm

    Truthfully, I do only follow the blogs I really want to read and comment on regularly.

    But, I always look forward to a comment from you because I think you're awesome!

  67. Wow, that was awkward
    January 28, 2011 | 6:08 pm

    I'm the same as you. Except for all that figure competition stuff. :) I have discovered some awesome writers and I try to read all their posts, but I even miss some of theirs now and then. Others I pop in and out of and I try to leave comments but don't even do that with the ones I read fairly regularly. It's hard to keep up with sometimes. Even though I write for myself, it is fun to get feedback though, isn't it?

  68. G.~
    January 28, 2011 | 6:22 pm

    Well at least you've come by and commented once on my blog.

    I don't take it too personally when someone doesn't follow or comment because I know how it is out here in the blogosphere, not to mention the fact that most of us have “real” lives too.

    I'd rather have a quality of readers and followers than quantity, and I'd rather have people follow because they really like what I have to say and not follow just because I followed them.

    I love that you're honest about the fact that your self-obsessed, which is why I stop by every now and then and read. I like honesty. You know who you are and that's a great thing.

    It seems as though you have plenty of fans.

  69. Monkey Man
    January 28, 2011 | 6:30 pm

    You DO have to follow to be followed, that is for certain. But when it begins to take too much time (Me: “You walked through the room naked and I didn't even notice?” Mrs. MM: “It's that blog or me.”) then it is more addiction than obsession….and I oughta know.

  70. Poppy
    January 28, 2011 | 7:03 pm

    I rarely hit the follow anymore unless the blogger is just starting out and has like 10 followers because really who cares? I always read my favorites (like yours), but I'm in a bit of a burn out right now and haven't been commenting much…though I couldn't NOT when you gave me such a nice shout out! You know I love ya~

  71. Mrs. Tuna
    January 28, 2011 | 7:05 pm

    Well Sh*t, I feel special that you wander over to my teeny tiny blog and comment on the adventures of Sheldon and the Big Tuna. I want to grow up and be just like you.

  72. Anita
    January 28, 2011 | 7:22 pm

    Is that what they call it? …figure competition. I never knew that. I thought it was just called women's body building.

    Anyway, you look great! And by the way, I double clicked and your body spread over my entire monitor. :) I'd love to have more muscle in my legs and thighs. Any advice? :)

    Good post on blogging etiquette. I agree with you and some of your commenters, in that, it's supposed to be fun…so do whatever you have to do to keep it that way. I think we all know that we can't expect to hear from everybody all the time, and that we can't comment on every blog we like all the time.

    One of your commenters pet peeve was people who responded on their post. I used to do that because people who were interested in the post would click on the “follow up comments” option and then they'd receive notification on the “thread” in their email in box and wouldn't have to revisit.
    But I stopped because I didn't want to influence bloggers by adding my opinion to specific comments for everyone to see. So, I respond personally if the blogger has a response email address set up.

    That was long, wasn't it? LOL

  73. Holly Ruggiero
    January 28, 2011 | 7:27 pm

    It’s like you’re inside my mind. My Google reader had 400 NEW post today. I can’t do it all and, um, anything else. So I have to pick and choose. I’m learning not to feel guilty about it either – isn’t that weird?

  74. Brandy@YDK
    January 28, 2011 | 7:27 pm

    i have commitment issues. i don't follow unless i'm gonna give it 100%. I do like when my follower # goes up though. it took like 3 comments from you on my blog before i was like ok – we can have a blog relationship. lol

  75. twelvedaysold
    January 28, 2011 | 7:27 pm

    Wha? I think what you're doing is fine. You stop by occasionally (well, I only blog occasionally) and I love that you followed me.

  76. The Minute Man's Wife
    January 28, 2011 | 7:31 pm

    Well I'll be happy to make your followers number go up by one more!! I like your style – even if you are a self confessed Follow Me Button Junkie!!

  77. ae
    January 28, 2011 | 7:40 pm

    I enjoy reading other people's blogs way more than I like writing my own posts! And I tend to hit the follow button quite a bit. I try to comment on everyone's posts that I follow at least once in a while but with school and work it just not feasible sometimes.

  78. dbs
    January 28, 2011 | 7:47 pm

    Thanks for sharing this.

  79. Diane
    January 28, 2011 | 8:42 pm

    Good Lord, you get a ton of comments! I follow a lot of blogs too…don't always read all of them but I rarely miss one of your posts cause you're just all awesome like that! And thanks for following me and commenting every once in awhile. I'm flattered.
    And please tell me you only look like that when you've been starving yourself and working out like 4 hours a day. Otherwise, I may have to start hating you. ;)

  80. Kristina P.
    January 28, 2011 | 9:31 pm

    I don't hit anyone's Follow Button. If someone leaves me a comment, I will return to their blog and leave one. If they come back, I will continue to return and develop a friendship. Which is why I met you!

  81. BeckEye
    January 28, 2011 | 9:48 pm

    I hit the Follow button a lot, too, mainly so I can add those blogs to my Following Gadget…otherwise I'd forgot to ever stop by and read visitors' blogs that I “keep meaning to.”

    Also, I'm totally jealous of your comment volume. :)

  82. Photo Freak
    January 28, 2011 | 10:01 pm

    your legs are rocken. dang girl!

  83. Nari
    January 28, 2011 | 10:11 pm

    I feel pressured to read and comment regularly on every blog I follow so I only follow a few.

    I'm trying to adjust my mentality in order to follow more bloggers because what if I'm missing something better out there?

    The internal war between my OCD and my paranoia is still up in the air but until one defeats the other, I have a terrible image of trying to diligently read and comment on hundreds of blogs every day.

    Since I blog at my office, this could possibly jeapordize my job. But, we all have to set our own priorities.

  84. Mrsblogalot
    January 28, 2011 | 10:15 pm

    Don't even think that the distraction of this great post makes up for how good you look in that tiny picture.

    Who do I have to follow to look like that? Huh? Who??

  85. caterpillar
    January 28, 2011 | 11:53 pm

    This post tells how it works in Blogosphere…the best feeling is knowing all these people through their blogs…laughing with them, worrying about them….it's like a whole family out here…I forgot what I had to say…but to put it simply, you're one awesome blogger…

  86. My Big Secret Blog :)
    January 28, 2011 | 11:53 pm

    Dear Sandra,

    I thought this was your truest, bestest, most honest post ever. It actually touched my heart.

    I'm honored to know you liked my blog. :)

  87. On My Soapbox
    January 29, 2011 | 3:37 am

    I have yet to figure out how you do it all: family, school, and blogging. Family and school are stressful enough! BTW, thanks for following me, too. I'm not nearly as funny as you, though. And I sure as hell am never going to post a photo of myself in a bikini. Anyone following we would depart instantly.

  88. Bibliomama
    January 29, 2011 | 4:31 am

    No, you're right — I'm just fine if hundreds of people click follow and then never come back again. Fake followers is better than no followers! This post is kind of light on cursing though — it's like a diet post. I feel a little unsatisfied…..

  89. DCHY
    January 29, 2011 | 4:43 am

    I used to follow over 200 blogs. Realized I had obligations away from Blogosphere that I must tend to. Reduced the list. The list grows. The realization occurs again. The list gets whittled down. Vicious cycle. ;)

  90. Forgetfulone
    January 29, 2011 | 5:30 am

    Thanks for stopping by my little blog today. I really enjoyed this post! I've been blogging a long time, but you'd never know it by the few comments I get. But I love blogging, and that's why I do it! Anyway, I'm babbling! LOL I hope you'll come back and see me some time!

  91. David L Macaulay
    January 29, 2011 | 6:20 am

    I've hit the follow button loads of times and sometimes I see a blog on the dashboard and think” “When did I follow that?” -yours is interesting, though. I think I may be following it already.
    David

    http://britsintheus23.blogspot.com/

  92. Just telling it like it is
    January 29, 2011 | 6:28 am

    OMG you look way more amazing./..there is hope…take care xoxoxoxo Amie

  93. DysFUNctional Mom
    January 29, 2011 | 7:56 am

    1. You are one hot mama!
    2. I keep up with my blogs through my google reader, so when I click on 'follow', it means the post will show up in my reader, which means I will feel obligated to read it, which means I will eventually feel guilty for not reading it because I can NEVER keep up with them all. *sigh* But I still follow a lot of blogs because I like them.
    It really is complicated.

  94. Sarahf
    January 29, 2011 | 9:29 am

    It took me a while to comment because I was slightly distracted by the amazing picture.
    I can't believe someone emailed you to complain, I think that means you're a big shot blogger now. Good for you!
    I'm always thrilled to have a follower/comment, but I don't hate people who don't. I have other places to direct my anger.

  95. Deborah
    January 29, 2011 | 10:40 am

    I agree with you, and if someone follows me I think they stopped by and liked the 'bit' they read, and I'm more than chuffed with that…as for the tiny photo, I would have had a billboard commissioned if I looked like that! Brilliant post as always :o )

  96. Kelly @ City Mom
    January 29, 2011 | 12:39 pm

    I love this post! Its all so true! I have my little routine where I go into my inbox and start opening emails from
    The lists I have subscribed to. I read, laugh, think or cry then I leave a comment on move on to my next friend.

    I still have secret dreams of being famous…some way, some how!

  97. Aleksandra Nearing
    January 29, 2011 | 1:50 pm

    Boy am I glad I follow you! I wish I had more time to stop by more often. I can't read you at work because you are BLOCKED! I get this “you have visited an inappropriate website and you will be reported message.” Can you believe it? I should send you a screenshot ;)

  98. TheBabyMammaChronicles
    January 29, 2011 | 5:34 pm

    Originally I cared so much more about following and being followed. Now, I'm happy following my faves and having a few wonderful people follow me. If I get more followers great. If I find some more fabulous blogs, awesome. If not, I'm OK :)

  99. Sparkling
    January 29, 2011 | 5:36 pm

    I am so with you. Didn't know there was some kind of code to the blogging world. I'm kind of like a puppy that way, just bulldozing through, like I know what I'm doing. I too will follow if I think I like it and then I add it to my blogroll. But since my blogroll is extensive, and I too feel that I must follow along and read every post, if I no longer like the blog, I just delete it. Too much pressure and not enough time to bore myself.

    Since I see you're up to 98 comments on a post, I see you are not doing too shabby. I'm lucky if I get one comment. And I love it when I do. Especially from you!

  100. purplume
    January 29, 2011 | 6:43 pm

    You are rockin and funny. You make good points. Add me to the jealous ones.
    My favorite way to read blogs was to have them come in my e-mail. That was until I started overflowing unread e-mails.
    Now I put all my blogs in Google reader. Nutty Cow up above said there is a comment on file in Google reader. There are so many, that will make it easier to find my favs.
    It saves time I used to spend going to a blog and finding there wasn't any new post.

  101. Linda Medrano
    January 29, 2011 | 6:58 pm

    I do try to read as many posts as I can most days. But then somedays, you can't. That's fine. Sooner or later I get around to everybody. But not every day. Still, I love all of it. And if I were you, I would never put on anything except a bikini. Not ever.

  102. Ameena
    January 29, 2011 | 11:04 pm

    There are so many blogs that I love and so little time. This crazy thing called work and my kid gets in the way of me following along with everyone's life! I often go back to blogs that I'd forgotten about and I wonder why I didn't keep up…but again, life gets in the way!

    I love that photo of you Sandra – I'd blow it up and make it my banner if I were you! Flaunt it sister!!

  103. Jill
    January 29, 2011 | 11:11 pm

    Huh? Wha? I know there's a lot of politics in blogging but I try to avoid all the bs and just read what I like. It's serving me well and from what I can tell, your method serves you well so try not to sweat the small stuff (even though I know you love the drama!) HA!

  104. Julianna
    January 29, 2011 | 11:50 pm

    Clearly, comments are not an issue for you anymore since I am #105! :)

    And, I know you love me…

    I Follow publicly all the time, because I'd rather people know I was stalking them, than not… cause that's just creepy.

    But what do I know? I'm stuck at 39 followers… (she says secretly hoping to break 40)

  105. BeMistified
    January 30, 2011 | 12:00 am

    Hey you know what? Most people want you to click the “follow me” and then they never care if you ever DO come back. Just as long as you add to their follow list :P

    Oh and guess what? You have been given an award! Accept your award here!

  106. tattytiara
    January 30, 2011 | 12:56 am

    I read way more blogs than I follow, so I don't even bother following anymore. I'm too busy reading blogs to check on my list of blogs I follow.

  107. ~ Darla ~
    January 30, 2011 | 1:41 am

    I'm just a comment among so many, but I love you, Sandra. I love the way you write and your attitude. I was totally laughing at your “small picture so you can't be accused of showing off.” Hey, you got it, flaunt it baby.

  108. gayle
    January 30, 2011 | 3:17 pm

    I agree I agree!
    OMG………you are beautiful and your body……I would love one just like that!!

    How do you do all you do?

  109. Pearl
    January 30, 2011 | 7:31 pm

    So now I know, it pays when you do yoga and running (esp running with your son:-))…You've got a beautiful, very toned body! hate you!:-)
    I agree, why would I not follow a blog if I liked it?
    I appreciate you following me Sandra. Thanks!

  110. Kimberly
    January 30, 2011 | 11:53 pm

    You know that I totally shit myself when you commented on my blog. Like for realz…
    Anyhoodles, it's tough trying to keep up with all the blogs and the blogs who comment on your blog and yadda yadda…
    The thing that I try to remember is that I got into blogging because I loved it and it made me happy…when it gets too much and makes me feel overwhelmed then I know I need to step back and breathe.
    I took a week off because I had some needles jammed all up in my spinal canal and SI joint and I decided that I just needed time to heal…so I didn't read any blogs.
    I just opened my reader and I have over 500 blogs to read.
    Sigh….
    Anyways…this comment is going absolutely nowhere and I still hate you for being ridiculously gorgeous…
    Kidding. I love you.

  111. Amanda
    January 31, 2011 | 6:10 am

    You know, in a way I practice this too. I wish that I could go and visit every blog I love all the time, but by the end of the day I'm DONE! It's 10:08 and I'm JUST now sitting down to read blogs. I do read some on my google reader app and star the ones I want to comment on later (like this one lol)

    I do enjoy your blog a lot. And I do love it when you stop by and say hi to me. And share your thoughts on whatever the hell I'm rambling on at the moment.

  112. Shell
    January 31, 2011 | 6:29 pm

    First of all- if I had a pic like that of me…it would be in my freaking header of my blog and huge.

    Okay, now that's out of the way- I click follow a lot, too. I do not visit every single blog I follow on a regular basis. I try to make my rounds as much as possible, but there are so many blogs out there, that there really is no keeping up unless you only follow 5 blogs.

  113. meleah rebeccah
    January 31, 2011 | 9:07 pm

    it's almost impossible to read everyone else's blogs all the time. You do the best you can, when you can. I think most people understand that.

  114. Ludicrous Mama
    February 1, 2011 | 2:42 am

    Following! Because I think you're funny, and not just to boost your clearly plentiful ego :)
    And I was totally the same way. Any followers yet? Any comments? How 'bout now? Now? NOW?
    How can I sell out as a corporate shill unless I have FOLLOWERS?!

    Thanks for having a subscribe button though. I can't keep up with all my bloggers unless they are spoon fed to me, via email. Even my HUSBAND has to nag at me to read his shit, since he's too lazy to learn how to sign up at Feedburner!

  115. Jill of All Trades
    February 1, 2011 | 11:23 am

    When I started to blog I was told by a blog veteren to comment, comment, comment to get traffic on my blog. I've been doing just that and I just love to have people visit mine and comment or follow but when it comes down to it I just love to write. Thanks for the follow and comment by the way (blush). Thanks

  116. Danielle
    February 1, 2011 | 5:31 pm

    I am the same way, but then you read the one blog that you relate so well to and with. So I thank you for stopping by my blog and following. It got me reading and following you. I consider you a friend. What a bonus to blogging!

  117. irishgrudge
    February 5, 2011 | 12:18 am

    Word. Whenever I find a blog I like I throw it in my google reader. I initially read every new post that comes through…but after awhile, when the unread posts start piling up, I end up only having time to read the handful that I really love. Which means that the all of the other blogs start to build and build until there's like 30 unread posts on each feed. I've gone through a few times and pruned out the ones that built up because I didn't like them but sometimes I also rediscover a blog that I just kinda forgot about. I actually did that just this afternoon since I was off work. Decluttering my reader is way more fun that decluttering my real house.

    Obviously you made the cut. CONGRATULATIONS! You win a comment!

  118. sim only deals
    February 5, 2011 | 12:03 pm

    wow, thats great..

  119. Pissed Off
    February 7, 2011 | 12:56 am

    I'm following.

  120. Megan (Best of Fates)
    February 7, 2011 | 8:19 pm

    Oh dear – I don't have a follow button. NOW HOW WILL I KNOW IF YOU LOVE ME?????

    Clearly this calls for an existential crisis.

  121. MommaKiss
    February 7, 2011 | 11:38 pm

    you drinkin the kool-aid or what?

  122. Jenny Livingston
    March 10, 2011 | 7:17 pm

    I'm into secretly following people. In my mind, I think people might be creeped out if they know some stranger is hanging on their every word. But then I think, “Isn't that WHY we blog? So people will read what we write?”. Even still… I usually lurk for a while before I publicly follow someone. Which, I'm just realizing as I type this, is FAR CREEPIER than just clicking the follow button.

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