Benefits of the ugly cry

During my last post, I wrote about my mini mental breakdown last Thursday.
I’m happy to report that I’m all better now.
The outporing of sympathy was not only greatly appreciated, it lifted my spirits to heights usually only experienced after consumption of several consecutive chocolate bars.
Surprisingly, my husband Wayne was scared shitless very concerned about me.
I don’t cry. I certainly don’t cry around him.
So even though he was hoping to avoid the scene entirely by coming home from work later than usual, he was unsuccessful.
He tiptoed into the house, popped his head around the corner, took one look at my puffy eyes, red nose, and lack of supper – ’cause Ugly Cry automatically exempts you from cooking – and said ever so carefully (lest my head explode from any insensitive tone or comment) “You ok?”
At that point, I was.
But boy, what Ugly Cry will get you.
Ugly Cry got me ‘take-out’ supper.
It got me a reprieve from poop-scooping.
I didn’t have to fold one piece of laundry all weekend.
The kids were kept occupied so I could stow away in my bedroom and get homework done during daylight hours.
Wayne made me chicken soup (I’m thinking he figured it would cure post Ugly Cry depression).
No smart-ass comments were made when I ate the last cinnamon bun.
But the best part was Wayne’s supporting role in a video my oldest son made.
Normally there’s no way Wayne can be talked off the couch during a televised sporting event.
However, due to his intense fear of Ugly Cry making a second appearance, upon seeing the look of glee cross my face when I heard my son ask for his assistance on set, Wayne could not refuse.
Have a look at my son’s digital camera video directorial debut (he’s taking an independent film study class).

I’m very proud of Wayne’s superb acting job.
Did you notice how intense he looked? The determination in his eyes. The fear when he spotted the
teeny-tiny shooter hidden beside the bed.

On a different note, however, my son, the director, is very disappointed with me for not allowing him to use his father’s hunting riffle for his next epic sensation.
 He said, -and I quote- “Mom, you’re crushing my dreams.”

My reaction to that is for an entirely different post.

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59 Responses to Benefits of the ugly cry
  1. FeliciaE
    September 20, 2010 | 4:58 pm

    Isn't it great what a complete break down will get you. Glad you feel better and yay for Wayne helping out with the video. He did a great job.

  2. Jill
    September 20, 2010 | 5:00 pm

    Glad to read you're feeling better! Your son is a DOLL. Isn't it sad that it takes the ugly cry to get that kind of attention? Same thing in my house. HUG, Jill

  3. Ameena
    September 20, 2010 | 5:01 pm

    I'm glad that you are feeling better! Sometimes an ugly cry is all you really need I guess.

    I might employ this tactic tonight as I don't feel like cooking dinner or helping anyone with their homework. My family is jaded though – I think they'll see right through me. :)

  4. Kristina P.
    September 20, 2010 | 5:02 pm

    You need to play the ugly cry card more often!

  5. Maggie S
    September 20, 2010 | 5:09 pm

    Glad you are better. Love that therapeutic weekend. You ave a great husband. Couldn't watch the video. Wish I could see it.

  6. Poppy
    September 20, 2010 | 5:11 pm

    I usually have to have a hospital stay involving general anesthesia to get that sort of attention and I'm still responsible for making the fucking phone call for take out.

    I'm glad Wayne took one for the team and starred in the movie because really you with puffy eyes is something I would want to see. This is not called Absolutely Narcicissism for nothing.

  7. SoccerMom
    September 20, 2010 | 5:15 pm

    Sometimes you just gotta let it out. and if there are rewards, well then so be it.

    Your poor son, how can you crush his dreams like that. Lol

  8. eatmovelove
    September 20, 2010 | 5:17 pm

    Thank you so much for your comment on my Blog – it brought me to yours and I love it – the name ;)

    And, yes, pity cry's, tantrums…I do that – but to myself :(

  9. Mamma has spoken
    September 20, 2010 | 5:17 pm

    Yeah for dream crushing!!! I'm the queen of that one ;o)

  10. Mighty M
    September 20, 2010 | 5:34 pm

    I love your son's film! I think he is a future hollywood director for sure!

    Glad you had such a nice weekend, even if it took an ugly cry to get it.

  11. Gigi
    September 20, 2010 | 6:05 pm

    Sometimes an occasional meltdown is warranted. Loved the film! Especially that the little guy debuted in his Osh Kosh by Gosh t-shirt!

  12. Saimi
    September 20, 2010 | 6:05 pm

    Bravo to the film maker and young actor!

    Glad you're feeling better!

  13. kathryn
    September 20, 2010 | 6:14 pm

    Okay, "Mom, you're crushing my dreams"? Seriously? Are you sure he's a budding director and not an actor??

    Did you keep a straight face? Did you have to bite your tongue and think about the time Bambi's mom got shot to manage it?

    Now I've got to find out what could have possibly upset you so. Reading backward is so confusing!

  14. Another Day of Crazy
    September 20, 2010 | 6:26 pm

    "Crushing my dreams" lol. Just wait til he's older!

    Glad the cry helped. Sometimes it's worth the ugliness.

  15. Canadianbloggergirl
    September 20, 2010 | 6:36 pm

    Way to go on results from the "ugly cry". I've taken a few of those and trust me, hubby makes up for it in all ways possible….for about three days…then its same ol same ol! lol

    good job on the video! housefull of talent you got in that household!

  16. Snuggle Wasteland
    September 20, 2010 | 7:34 pm

    I may have to try the ugly cry sometime soon….

    Your husband and son could get discovered! Hollywood here they come!

  17. Jessica
    September 20, 2010 | 7:38 pm

    It almost makes the Ugly Cry worth it… the recovery treatment that is. It's usually the only way I can get nag free alone time while in my house.

  18. Kristin @ Peace, Love and Muesli
    September 20, 2010 | 8:27 pm

    I have entirely too many meltdowns to get any of that fancy treatment.
    Good motivation to clean up my act though.

  19. Julianna
    September 20, 2010 | 8:43 pm

    My son once (during the summer when all the neighborhood could hear him) screamed at me at the top of his lungs "MURDERER!" Over and over. When I asked what I had killed, he responded, "My dreams". -J

  20. ChiTown Girl
    September 20, 2010 | 8:50 pm

    Thanks for dropping by my place, and leaving your funny comment. I'm always curious about how people find me, so feel free to leave me another comment and let me know. I know, I'm a pain in the ass, sorry! Feel free to tell me to just fuck off.

    I'm totally in love with your blog, by the way. I'm always hard-pressed to find someone who drops more f-bombs than I do! ;-) I plan to read back through your archives next week when I'm on vacation. Yeah, I'm kinda a loser like that…. :(

  21. Just Plain Tired
    September 20, 2010 | 8:55 pm

    Nothing like a good ugly cry to get the family to tip toe around you, and for an entire weekend? That cry must put the fear of God into them. ;)

  22. Portia
    September 20, 2010 | 9:13 pm

    Awesome video! You sure made out from the post Ugly Cry! All I ever got was take-out for mine!

  23. ChiTown Girl
    September 20, 2010 | 10:06 pm

    OK, I couldn't wait for vacation, I'm slowly going through your archives right now. I'm totally jealous that in less than 4 month you've managed to get over 500 followers. That's fuckin' awesome!

  24. Confessions of a Closet Hoarder but you can call me Judy
    September 21, 2010 | 12:31 am

    He said, -and I quote- "Mom, you're crushing my dreams."

    Oh my goodness! That's hysterical! He did an awesome job on the video!

  25. Lady L
    September 21, 2010 | 8:19 am

    Love your blog!

  26. Debby@Just Breathe
    September 21, 2010 | 9:55 am

    I haven't had an ugly cry in awhile. I could go for some extra attention! Your sons video is awesome. Thank you for stopping over. I have put you in my reader………..

  27. Truthful Mommy
    September 21, 2010 | 10:30 am

    I am sorry you had the ugly cry last week. I am telling you we have too much in common I had the exact same thing on Tuesday of last week.SOmetimes, its just too damn much! And my husband, Wayne, came home this weekend from being out of town and tried to make it all better. No cooking, cleaning fro me plus he took the girls s hopping for my bday gift one day so I could be in peace and the other day he sent me off shopping for something fabulous to wear on my birthday…alone. I could actually try clothes on without tripping over little people. It was just what I needed! I hate the ugly cry. I actually watched the Last SOng on Wednesday to get all the crying out. It worked:) Big HUGS!!!!Love the video!

  28. Katy
    September 21, 2010 | 10:40 am

    Glad that Wyne is taking care of you. Personally nothing picks me up when I'm down quite as much a crushing the dreams of small children.

  29. Big Fat Gini
    September 21, 2010 | 11:15 am

    Oh yeah, the Ugly Cry will get me just about anything from Mr. BFG. He is most definitely "a fixer" and if a pint of ice cream will fix it and make me happy again, he'll do it.

    Glad your hubs took such good care of you! Your son is awesome! My oldest got a Flip for his birthday (I mean, he's 10 so…) and continuously makes Geico commercial remakes on it.

  30. MissEmy
    September 21, 2010 | 11:48 am

    Your son is adorable!! :) Cute movie.

  31. Quirkyloon
    September 21, 2010 | 12:30 pm

    The ugly cry, eh?

    What happens when you use the ugly cry every day? Do you still get out of the chores?

    Not that I intend to do that, I'm just asking…because I have this…friend.


  32. The Fitness Guru
    September 21, 2010 | 1:49 pm

    Getting things out is better than holding them in. I need an ugly cry I think! I'm new to following your blog (and blogging in general). Come check mine out if you get a chance. Thanks!

  33. Chandra
    September 21, 2010 | 2:05 pm

    Oh you have a little Quentin Terintino on your hands there! Fantastic!!!

    Now, about that ugly cry…I didn't read the prior post (oops) but can I just say that we deserve an ugly cry once in awhile. The burden of being a Mom, wife and going to school…I would ugly cry everyday…wait…I DO ugly cry everyday!!

    hang in there!

  34. Danielle
    September 21, 2010 | 2:14 pm

    See, that is why we keep the ugly cry for special occasions. If we broke it out every day, it wouldn't be as beneficial.

  35. Constar
    September 21, 2010 | 2:45 pm

    OMG your writting is absolutley halarious! i loved both posts! and btw that little video.. awesomeness. lol! glad to hear your all better.

  36. Jen
    September 21, 2010 | 4:11 pm

    Look out Brad Pitt! You've got some competition.

  37. Lijington
    September 21, 2010 | 5:31 pm

    this was nice…you have great actors living with you..I liked the camera angles they chose..well played out story…you can't help but to be proud of them…*****(thats my rating lol)

  38. ThePeachy1
    September 21, 2010 | 5:37 pm

    the only thing that video needs is a soundtrack we all know what a HUGE difference a kicking sound track can make ( see purple rain, or chicago for reference) Kudos and the males for picking up the proverbial dropped ball during ugly cry time. I can't do ugly cry anymore it sends me straight to migraine land or even to the pass out party hut. So have an ugly cry for me, enjoy your take out and hang in there.

  39. mintifresh
    September 21, 2010 | 5:39 pm

    Why on earth wouldn't you let him use the hunting rifle?! ;)

    That boy's got skillz!

  40. Matty
    September 21, 2010 | 5:57 pm

    We men are deathly afraid of the ugly cry. And yes, you definitely get perks for using it. Just don't overdo it. Just sayin'.

    LOVE LOVE the video. He's got a future there. And by the way, what was the pay scale for the extra?

  41. Busy Working Mama
    September 21, 2010 | 7:44 pm

    Mmm…cinnamon buns. You deserve them. Love the video, and Wayne's startled surprised look was perfect.

  42. Sara @ Domestically Challenged
    September 21, 2010 | 10:07 pm

    I'd comment, but I am going to go ugly cry in front of my husband. I am so sick of the flippin laundry and cooking. He'd better buck up like your hubs!

  43. robertga99
    September 21, 2010 | 10:21 pm

    Glad you are feeling better. The ugly cry always works. Your son is sooo cute. I loved the video. Where did you get his bunk bed? That looks so cool.

  44. daniela
    September 21, 2010 | 11:43 pm

    OMG I loved this! And you may laugh at me for this but at first i thought the little actor was ALSO the director and almost died b/c OBVIOUSLY he is a genius. Then i read the credits. Now, i'm sure Wyatt is a GENIUS too…but i felt dumb LOL

    Glad you feel better – Ugly Cry is one of the best secrets ;)

  45. TV's Take
    September 22, 2010 | 12:33 am

    GREAT Video! So glad your feeling better. Ugly Cry is no good but with all those emotions pouring out at once it's no wonder we look crazy when we cry. Thanks for stopping by tonight – I'll look you up when your old and gray.

  46. RawknRobynsGoneBlogWild
    September 22, 2010 | 1:13 am

    Wayne sounds like a keeper. That was a cute, suspenseful little film. We all need a good solid ugly cry, followed by a break from all responsibilities, followed next by a good hearty dose or two hundred of chocolate, every now and again.
    Thanks for finding and following me, so that I could do the same. I'm looking forward to more!

  47. MamaOnDaGo
    September 22, 2010 | 2:15 am

    Bravo!!! That's for your Ugly Cry bonuses and for the video.

  48. Kristin Morris
    September 22, 2010 | 7:26 am

    Thanks for stopping by my blog! Isn't it funny how the word cake can suck us in like a bad infomercial!? I am glad your feeling better, great video! We just let it build and build til one day it just pours out and we cant help but cry about everything and anything at one point! :) It happens. Sometiems we all need a good ugly cry! :)

    September 22, 2010 | 10:04 am

    LOVEd the film… your right.. the hubs does have some suburb skill there.. lol. I act on the side.. can actually "cry ON cue"… sucks for my hubs. lol

  50. Queen of the Rant
    September 22, 2010 | 1:18 pm

    Holy cow that movie is amazing-I am having such a hard time making a movie for my job-what program did he use?? His editing skills are fabulous!wow

  51. Toyin O.
    September 22, 2010 | 2:45 pm
  52. SkippyMom
    September 22, 2010 | 3:27 pm

    Loving the movie – and nice move on the ugly cry. One lupus flare and I get breakfast in bed. One advantage to having an autoimmune disease I suppose ;D. heehee

  53. Lourie
    September 22, 2010 | 6:59 pm

    Very well done!!! And don't you love it when our kids use theatrics against us.

  54. Semi-Slacker Mom
    September 23, 2010 | 9:28 am

    Maybe I should try an ugly cry.

    If Wyatt needs anymore actors, I've got some real drama queens over here!

  55. McKenzie
    September 23, 2010 | 11:00 am

    I think I should try an Ugly Cry.. If it gets the house cleaned and I can sit in my bedroom with peace and quiet, I'm down!!

  56. Katie
    September 23, 2010 | 5:03 pm

    HAHA! That's great! Wayne is such a trooper. Loved the video, my brother (now 27) STILL does these videos and they crack me up everytime. Glad your'e doing better, I'm jealous of your well-deserved weekend!

  57. ~J
    September 23, 2010 | 7:59 pm

    You might just have a little film maker on your hands, Mom!! If he ever needs a big chested girl in her 30's…tell him to call me! ;)

  58. Tooje
    September 24, 2010 | 11:27 pm

    What a fun video. LOL I bet my boys would love to make something like this. I have NO IDEA how to take parts from one video and combine with parts from another video….maybe the kids could figure it out for me?

    Nice work on the ugly cry. I cry too often for my husband to take it that seriously. I'm a crier. It's what I do.

  59. CkretsGalore
    October 2, 2010 | 12:08 pm

    Loved the video!

    And yes, the ugly cry…My Manfriend/Fiancee provides the same treatment.

    Always kinda sucky that you have to completely break down before you can catch a break.

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