I came across a blog the other day in one of those ‘mommy’ discussion groups. I should really stay away from those. I know who I am. I know that the way I parent is conducive to keeping me and mine working cohesively as a semi-functional family unit.
Yet…YET I go back to these sites where mothers discuss such things as the pros and cons of working versus staying home with kids, breastfeeding versus bottle feeding, running to crying infant versus letting him/her cry it out. I don’t know why. I don’t even care about these issues. I read them, and then I’m like, “Ok. Let’s go see the spoilers for next weeks’ episodes of General Hospital.”
But I read one woman’s rant last week, and as much as I’d love to copy and paste it so that you could see for yourselves what she wrote, I’m still not up to code on all of the blogger laws. Is it like university? If I copy and paste, is it like plagiarizing? Is it defamation of character? Do I have to give her credit before or after I malign her? So to avoid having my ass handed to me by the cyber police, I’m just going to paraphrase.
Woman basically said that mothers who like designer clothing and like to maintain an esthetically pleasing appearance are bad. Said woman even went on to say that she has an expensive ‘Coach’ bag that her husband gave her, but she keeps it in her closet instead of using it…You know I have 101 comments I’d LOVE to be making here, but there will be plenty of time for judgement, I promise…
…because the final comment of this woman’s post was that when mothers turn 30, they should start dressing their age and make their children their priority…
…ok…I’m not the only person whose hackles go up at this, right?
Thirty? Dressing my age? ‘Cause I’m a shittier mother if I don’t dress my age? Trust me lady, it’s not because I wear Ugg boots that I’m a shitty mother. I have plenty of other opportunities to mess my kids up.
I usually don’t respond to these discussion groups. But this time I couldn’t pass up the opportunity. I was all like, “Listen you dumb bitch”…ok, no, I didn’t say that. I was very diplomatic, and very diplomatically told her that I happen to have an identity aside from being a mother and I’m not about to apologize for that. And furthermore, who is she to judge a mother’s worth based on the label of that person’s handbag.
…I might have also hinted that I wanted her ‘Coach’ bag.
Is that wrong?
Here’s the thing though. Now that I’ve read that, I’m sort of self-conscious. Today I went shopping with my 10 year old daughter. I like the same stores that she does. The ones that sell the short shorts, the mini skirts,the babydoll tops, the jersey knit skirts.